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Marital rape is just like any other "kind" of rape—that is, forcible unwanted sexual contact—except that it occurs between two people who are married.
 History of "marital" rape
The roots of the concept lie in many older cultures' treatment of women as chattel, or the property of their fathers, brothers, and eventually, husband. In the modern era, as women have been understood and legally recognized as "human beings", the concept of a wife being the property of her husband for the purpose of perpetuating his progeny has fallen by the wayside. However, not all cultures or traditions have entered this "modern era" yet.
 Fundamentalist view
Fundamentalist religious sects are not terribly helpful to women with sexually demanding and inconsiderate (and perhaps also violent) husbands.
People like Phyllis Schlafly believe that a husband is entitled to have sex with his wife any time he wants, and that her unwillingness to have sex with him would not justify a charge of rape, since to Phyllis and her ilk, marriage implies automatic and perpetual consent (until she files for divorce, at least). Either such people have not studied what is said about the harm caused by rape in marriage or they consider such opinions unimportant. The following is from a website counselling abuse victims.
“”Marital rape is so destructive because it betrays the fundamental basis of the marital relationship, because it questions every understanding you have not only of your partner and the marriage, but of yourself. You end up feeling betrayed, humiliated and, above all, very confused.
Many fundamentalists believe that their daughters should remain chaste and be sheltered from anything beyond rudimentary - if any - sex education until marriage. Given the state of the advice and information circulated within fundamentalist groups, if these women marry, and often they do so when quite young, they enter marriage knowing little or nothing about reproduction or sexuality. This makes it difficult for them to understand their legal and moral rights, or defend themselves when their husband is "in the mood" and they aren't. The lack of education may also stop women from knowing when their young and eager husband's advances have crossed the line and gone too far.
Of course, not all relationships with a background of poor or non-existent sex education end up in such a situation — however, should these women want him to help them experience an orgasm, he won't know what that means and life will certainly be less enjoyable. Although such abstinence from "guilty pleasures," or sodomy as they may call it, may be part of the religious upbringing so they may not particularly, on the face of it, care too much about this aspect.
 Countries that do not recognize marital rape
In many parts of the world, women do not belong to themselves, but to their husbands. The following countries still permit husbands to rape (and in some cases, physically abuse) their wives.
- Saudi Arabia
- In Sri lanka, Singapore, and Tanzania, it is only illegal if you are legally separated.
 See also
- ↑ Legally speaking, universal attention to the issue of spousal rape came in 1993, when the UN High Commission on Human Rights added "spousal rape", and in fact an entire section on violence against women, to their statement of Basic Human Rights, entitled "Declaration of ending Violence against Women", to which France, Germany and the UK and the US are signatories.
- ↑ Marital Rape. Hidden Hurt.
- ↑ Kosher Sex. Judaism 101.