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Rape culture refers to the ways in which a society and its culture trivializes, rationalizes, and even condones this vicious act of violence despite being nominally against rape in abstract.
 What rape culture involves
- How forms of rape that don't conform to a (in itself deeply offensive and sexist) specific set of standards aren't as important as those that do. That is, if the rape doesn't involve male stranger(s) on younger female victim penile-vaginal penetration with a large degree of force, then it's not "real rape" and can be downplayed or apologized for as necessary.
- How cases where the victim is male or where the perpetrator is female aren't generally taken seriously.  
- Related to the above, very naked and hateful blaming the victim if the victim was shown to be "out of line" at any point. Once the well is poisoned, rape can be pushed into the gray area before being denied entirely. Even if a rape victim actually does meet the maximum standards for sympathy, the implication is that the rapist's transgression against traditional values and polite society was more important than the actual act of violence done to the victim.
- White-washing the perpetrator. They can be direct excuses such as "He's a man, she was leading him on, he couldn't help it" or more indirect ones such as "If you don't want to be prison raped, don't go to prison!"
- Dehumanizing the victim. The victim has to "justify" her report of rape in a way a mugging victim does not. Emergency room staff talk of "DNA evidence in the vagina," and "make sure to photograph all the bruises on the victim," in a way that removes the person raped from the exam.
- The downplay of causal factors to rape such as but not limited to a generalized culture of violence, misogyny, and homophobia.
- The downplay and ignoring of warning signs that often precede rape such as sexual harrassment, sexual humiliation, non-coital sexual assault such as unwanted breast or ass-grabbing, and the objectification and othering of victims by rape apologists.
- Eroticization and romanticization of rape in popular culture, without showing the negative side effects or at least imploring a heavy degree of due diligence from the audience.
- The urban legend that women don't want sex, and must be "encouraged" to have sex. Played out in the old joke "No! Don't! Stop! No, don't stop!"
- Overplaying incidents of false or politically motivated accusations in order to create a cloud of doubt over all crime incidents. While there will always be some scumbags who make false accusations of any kind of crime, one gets the impression that false rape accusations get so much attention in order to preemptively shame anyone without an ironclad case to silence. This can create a chilling effect on rape victims who don't want to be accused of lying or subject to the media circus afterwards.
- Allowing a rapist to sue for custody. This is legal in 31 states, and usually used by defense attorneys to get a reduced sentence for the rapist ("if you reduce his sentence, we won't sue for custody of any children"). But, it still happens that rapists really do sue for custody — and sometimes, they win.
 In practice
- Rape kits, used to collect evidence of rape, have been frequently charged back to the victim. Alaska under Sarah Palin is perhaps the most well known example, but at the time, over 20 states were doing the exact same thing. Victims (or their families) of muggings, theft or murder are not charged with the cost of collecting evidence.
- A US reality of 1 in 5 women being raped, and 1 in 4 women facing sexual violence or rape of some kind.
- A prison industry where more than 10% of the men will be raped at some point in their incarceration. Because it is "expected" and they are "just criminals" little to nothing is done about this epidemic.
- Debates in the US House attempting to articulate what a "legitimate" rape is, vs... well, we aren't sure vs., what. The specific language they were debating was "forcible rape", which is the only type of rape that would be covered by US aid from the Violence Against Women Act, would be used for FBI and CDC statistics about the commonality of rape and pregnancy and diseases born from those rapes, and would of course be the defining example for any exception to abortion law, or access to federal funds for abortion.
- In the US at least, it is becoming more and more common for rape victims to have their pictures in the newspaper, an incredibly disturbing thing to do to the victim of any crime, and a demonstration of complete lack of empathy for the victim by the "reporters" who do this, and the societies that allow this kind of nonsense to happen.
- Twitter, Facebook and other social media are often outlets for images of rape victims and/or support for rapists, especially when so-called "popular" students are involved. Steubinville is the most recognized incident.
 Continuing fights against rape culture
- In 2013, after sustained pressure from women's groups, both Twitter and Facebook reviewed their policies around incidents of rape, threats of rape, and jokes about rape. Facebook agreed to view any images of rape, or humor specifically supporting rape or violence against women as hate speech and agreed to remove those types of images. Twitter, a medium that is a haven for threats of rape against out spoken women agreed in early August, 2013 that it would provide a better way to report such threats.
 See also
- This is What Rape Culture Looks Like, Jaclyn Friedman, Yes Means Yes
- ↑ A particularly ugly example of this.
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- ↑ The blog Yes Means Yes refers to this stereotyping as the social script of stranger rape.
- ↑ This isn't to say that people shouldn't be allowed to have any form of entertainment and fantasy they want as long as it doesn't involve a real-world crime. However, the lackadaisical or ambiguous messages sent by the heteronormative social media ends up creating an environment in which actual rape can be pushed into the aforementioned grey area.
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- ↑ http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/SV-DataSheet-a.pdf
- ↑ http://bjs.gov/index.cfm?ty=pbdetail&iid=4373
- ↑ Wikipedia Stueubenville article
- ↑ http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/twitter-trolls-send-mary-beard-2123303
- ↑ http://www.theguardian.com/technology/2013/jul/29/labour-mp-stella-creasy-twitter-rape-threats
- ↑ http://jezebel.com/if-comedy-has-no-lady-problem-why-am-i-getting-so-many-511214385
- ↑ http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/aug/04/caroline-criado-perez-twitter-rape-threats