Talk:Rape/Archive1
Good job Mei. Your edits are really good. Researcher (talk) 22:36, 4 March 2010 (UTC)
- Oh thanks. ^_______^ I just grabbed some sources from wikipedia. -- Mei (talk) 22:38, 4 March 2010 (UTC)
[edit] types of rape?
I'm not sure I'm comfortable with this title. A rape is a rape; there are not really different "types" of rape. I'm not sure what would be better though. It just feels - really wierd.--
Godot Warning, chocolate will make your clothes shrink 23:21, 17 September 2011 (UTC)
[edit] women v. victim
I kept writing 'women' as i changed this article, but I tried to remember that it's "victim" as not all victims are women. Please if you see "women" somewhere, change it? thanks - godot.--
Godot Warning, chocolate will make your clothes shrink 01:11, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
- Yes, using a word according to its correct meaning can be difficult after it has been subjected to attempts to make it a synonym of "false consciousness."
ListenerXTalkerX 01:28, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
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Methinks it is a Weasel 20:44, 21 February 2012 (UTC)
[edit] American right-wingers' attitudes toward rape v. Politicization of rape in the US
Definitely the latter, which describes a process. The former is a blanket accusation with an implicit assumption that all right-wingers share a particular attitude on the question of rape. B♭maj7 "If two men say they're Jesus, one of them must be wrong." 04:01, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
- I agree with the "implicit assumption" part, but if the section header is not changed, it would be apropos to add to the section a very long list, about the length of the New York telephone directory, of how the issue has been politicized on the other side of the spectrum, as with the "Take Back the Night" marches.
ListenerXTalkerX 04:09, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
- Why am I not surprised that you would have a problem with Take Back the Night? B♭maj7 "If two men say they're Jesus, one of them must be wrong." 04:12, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
- I have no particular issue with the "Take Back the Night" marches (aside from the loony views of some of their organizers, but that is sort of a fringe concern); but one cannot deny that they make a political issue out of rape, according to the old saying, "The personal is political." It is not the politicization that is the problem in that section, but the attempted relaxation of rape laws.
ListenerXTalkerX 04:14, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
- I have no particular issue with the "Take Back the Night" marches (aside from the loony views of some of their organizers, but that is sort of a fringe concern); but one cannot deny that they make a political issue out of rape, according to the old saying, "The personal is political." It is not the politicization that is the problem in that section, but the attempted relaxation of rape laws.
- Why am I not surprised that you would have a problem with Take Back the Night? B♭maj7 "If two men say they're Jesus, one of them must be wrong." 04:12, 18 September 2011 (UTC)
[edit] Ayn Rand / fictionalised rape romances
Dunno if relevant or on-mission, but is it worth noting that Howard Roark raped Dominique Francon, who later married him? Or is fiction a valid source? I only ask because Randroids appear to love the romance between the two characters (At one point, I even idealized the characters, until I read the book a second time). -- Seth Peck (talk) 22:33, 14 December 2011 (UTC)
- No, the rapey romances of Ayn Rand go on the Ayn Rand page. Nebuchadnezzar (talk) 22:35, 14 December 2011 (UTC)
- The Comedian raped Silk Spectre and she fucking loved it. Is that relevant? Which reminds me, "rape fantasy" possibly either needs to be explored here or the BDSM page.
pathetic 02:09, 15 December 2011 (UTC)
- Actually, she didn't love it, she simply justified it post-hoc. However, point made and understood. I would say "rape fantasy" belongs on BDSM (possibly linked to from the "See also" on "Rape", or under a "Not the same as" section), as it is still a consensual activity. -- Seth Peck (talk) 20:49, 5 January 2012 (UTC)
- Correction: The Comedian attempted to rape Silk Spectre, but was stopped. They later had consensual sex. All of this is explored and commented on in the Watchmen comic book. Mcc1789 (talk) 02:11, 18 October 2012 (UTC)
- I think fiction which implicitly endorses rape should be covered somewhere, either in rape culture or rape apology. I know a few examples from film (Straw Dogs, High Plains Drifter, etc.) Wéáśéĺóíď
Methinks it is a Weasel 07:34, 18 October 2012 (UTC)
- I think fiction which implicitly endorses rape should be covered somewhere, either in rape culture or rape apology. I know a few examples from film (Straw Dogs, High Plains Drifter, etc.) Wéáśéĺóíď
- Correction: The Comedian attempted to rape Silk Spectre, but was stopped. They later had consensual sex. All of this is explored and commented on in the Watchmen comic book. Mcc1789 (talk) 02:11, 18 October 2012 (UTC)
- Actually, she didn't love it, she simply justified it post-hoc. However, point made and understood. I would say "rape fantasy" belongs on BDSM (possibly linked to from the "See also" on "Rape", or under a "Not the same as" section), as it is still a consensual activity. -- Seth Peck (talk) 20:49, 5 January 2012 (UTC)
- The Comedian raped Silk Spectre and she fucking loved it. Is that relevant? Which reminds me, "rape fantasy" possibly either needs to be explored here or the BDSM page.
[edit] Rape and religion
I'd like to add a section about the laws regarding rape when it comes to religion eg. the old testament teachings as well as rape in Islam and how the victim is often blamed.--Sammygirl (talk) 05:25, 4 January 2012 (UTC)
- Go right ahead. Surprised there isn't anything like that already. PintOfStout Talk Do you think expletives make you look intelligent? I dunno. Do you think being self righteous makes you look like a prick? 05:28, 4 January 2012 (UTC)
- Some interesting stuff on the subject - from the looks of it, it's not rape, it's just catching a woman and having sex with her without her consent.
moral 14:37, 4 January 2012 (UTC)
- This will never happen, cause they make their money off tourism, but Egypt still has laws on its book that while a man might be convicted too, a woman who is raped and reports it, will be convicted of illicit sex, and will be emprisioned for 4 - 5 months, to prove she is pregnant or not. If she is pregnant, then the rapist can marry her. Old old norse culture (and i'm sure many others) had the same tradition. wanna marry a girl but she hates you? just rape her!
GodotEn live 15:25, 4 January 2012 (UTC)
- The Talmud has slightly different views, including a prohibition from spousal rape, a husband's obligation to ensure that the wife is sexually satisfied, and some rather specific references to how and how frequently such acts should be performed. -- Seth Peck (talk) 20:45, 5 January 2012 (UTC)
- I knew that was the case in teh "i'd heard that once". if you know specfics please add them!
GodotDear god, fucking grow up 21:03, 5 January 2012 (UTC)
- I knew that was the case in teh "i'd heard that once". if you know specfics please add them!
- The Talmud has slightly different views, including a prohibition from spousal rape, a husband's obligation to ensure that the wife is sexually satisfied, and some rather specific references to how and how frequently such acts should be performed. -- Seth Peck (talk) 20:45, 5 January 2012 (UTC)
- This will never happen, cause they make their money off tourism, but Egypt still has laws on its book that while a man might be convicted too, a woman who is raped and reports it, will be convicted of illicit sex, and will be emprisioned for 4 - 5 months, to prove she is pregnant or not. If she is pregnant, then the rapist can marry her. Old old norse culture (and i'm sure many others) had the same tradition. wanna marry a girl but she hates you? just rape her!
- Some interesting stuff on the subject - from the looks of it, it's not rape, it's just catching a woman and having sex with her without her consent.
[edit] Rape rates probably about to skyrocket in the US
Because the Justice Department is going to re-tool how the word is defined. PintOfStout Talk BRONIES! 16:05, 6 January 2012 (UTC)
- When the definition has "the carnal knowledge of a female" in it, it damn well needs an update.
gnostic 16:10, 6 January 2012 (UTC)
- Word. PintOfStout Talk BRONIES! 16:26, 6 January 2012 (UTC)
- So this whole time, the only people officially being raped were women? Ok, I'll stop whining about discrimination now. !
GodotDear god, fucking grow up 16:32, 6 January 2012 (UTC)
- So this whole time, the only people officially being raped were women? Ok, I'll stop whining about discrimination now. !
- Word. PintOfStout Talk BRONIES! 16:26, 6 January 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Rape and evolution
As a former protégé of Thornhill I take issue with our presentation of the idea. Rather than turn it into a war of citations how about we just don't include it in this article and if people really want to dissect it we can do a separate piece on it. Tmtoulouse (talk) 17:43, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I think it can and should be put here. I'm just not sure what you are looking for, cause i don't see a section "evolution and rape".
GodotGrow a vagina 18:29, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Well I removed the paragraph that was there before. The issue is that if their is disagreement between editors on this point the section is likely to bloom disproportionate to what it should be in this article. That is why I suggested that if people really want to dissect it we should have an article just for this research. Tmtoulouse (talk) 20:14, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Gotcha.
I edited it, to say something, but not the tone it was before. If you're still bothered, then we can dump it and make it (later) into a new article.nevermind
GodotGrow a vagina 20:20, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- You saying that someone has considered some pop-evo-pysch of rape? Fucking priceless.
sshole 20:45, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I am generally agnostic on a lot of evo-psych stuff, I have been back and forth on it many times. I have worked under a lot of the big names in the field though, and I don't think the ideas can be dismissed as easily as a lot of people seem want to do. Tmtoulouse (talk) 20:47, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- You are right that this is likely to go far beyond this one page. One of my biggest problems with this idea that rape is evo and not cultural is that we simply do not see it in many (so called) primitive cultures. Rape is almost unheard of in most tribal cultures, where survival is more critical, and where we do not see strong patriarchal patters. Once patriarchy comes, rape comes. There is example after example of this happening in American Indian tribes where rape was not a problem until power shifted to a male focal culture. That wasn't taken into account at all in Nat History of Rape. Nor was the fact that sex is not about procreation in society, and hasn't been for what we call "modern" humans, since our sex drive is as much a pairing drive.
GodotGrow a vagina 20:53, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Unless, perhaps, you make a suitable argument for patriarchy being of evolutionary advantage and so rape is a side effect. But it is a crime - well, we consider it to be one - and so trying to give evolutionary origins to it is like trying to give evolutionary origins to murder, theft, fraud and so on. Indeed, most of our moral instinct is explained in evo-psych terms as these acts not being beneficial to us.
postate 20:58, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I disagree with your assessment of rape prevalence in tribal/hunter-gather societies. What data are you drawing on? Tmtoulouse (talk) 20:59, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Unless, perhaps, you make a suitable argument for patriarchy being of evolutionary advantage and so rape is a side effect. But it is a crime - well, we consider it to be one - and so trying to give evolutionary origins to it is like trying to give evolutionary origins to murder, theft, fraud and so on. Indeed, most of our moral instinct is explained in evo-psych terms as these acts not being beneficial to us.
- You are right that this is likely to go far beyond this one page. One of my biggest problems with this idea that rape is evo and not cultural is that we simply do not see it in many (so called) primitive cultures. Rape is almost unheard of in most tribal cultures, where survival is more critical, and where we do not see strong patriarchal patters. Once patriarchy comes, rape comes. There is example after example of this happening in American Indian tribes where rape was not a problem until power shifted to a male focal culture. That wasn't taken into account at all in Nat History of Rape. Nor was the fact that sex is not about procreation in society, and hasn't been for what we call "modern" humans, since our sex drive is as much a pairing drive.
- I am generally agnostic on a lot of evo-psych stuff, I have been back and forth on it many times. I have worked under a lot of the big names in the field though, and I don't think the ideas can be dismissed as easily as a lot of people seem want to do. Tmtoulouse (talk) 20:47, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- You saying that someone has considered some pop-evo-pysch of rape? Fucking priceless.
- Gotcha.
- Well I removed the paragraph that was there before. The issue is that if their is disagreement between editors on this point the section is likely to bloom disproportionate to what it should be in this article. That is why I suggested that if people really want to dissect it we should have an article just for this research. Tmtoulouse (talk) 20:14, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Rape victims suffer less emotional distress when they are subjected to more violence
WTF?? Trust me, rape is rape. you are not less emotional when you are beaten the fuck up. You are not less emotional when it's your boyfriend or lover. You are not less emotional when you have a knife at your throat.
GodotGrow a vagina 20:55, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I also have a pretty huge problem with the "contentions', as they are very one sided. "consider' that some species rape. Equally or more do not. so why is that not "considered". Men are raped. Why is that not considered. Wives who you can and are already copulating with are raped. that's hardly spreading your seed. Mostly women of child bearing years are raped - how is this a factor? Infants are raped, old people are raped. "mostly" is pretty shoddy a place to make a primary contention.
GodotGrow a vagina 20:58, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Keep in mind that they are not merely asserting these things de novo but rather drawing on research that actually attempted to look at "distress measures." There is data to support their claims, and there are people that say that data is flawed, and people who say the criticism is flawed, and around and around it goes. But they are not merely asserting things, they do draw on research. To really do their hypothesis justice though you have to understand the whole argument that evolutionary psychology makes.
- In brief, evo psych presents itself as studying behaviour as a bell curve. When I as TAing the Daly Wilson ev psych class I would talk about the "I know a guy stories." If I stand up and say that cigarettes cause lung cancer someone can always respond with an "I know a guy story" on either end, such as "I know a guy that smoked 2 packs a day and never had cancer," or "I know a guy that got lung cancer and never smoked." But these counter examples are not evidence against the casual relationship between smoking and cancer because that relationship takes place as a percent increase in risk. The same sort of argument is presented in evo psych. Individuals are individuals and subject to all the random little perturbation that makes behaviour unpredictable. Evolution does not work on an individual level. So examining behaviour at an individual level does not reveal much about potential evolutionary pressures or adaptations. You have to look at populations, and behaviours across a curve.
- Thornhill and Palmer do not attempt to explain all acts of sexual violence. But rather ask under what conditions would rape be most likely to be under selective pressure, and does rape generally show this pattern. Tmtoulouse (talk) 21:07, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I have no idea how to even begin responding to this. I'm an expert in religion, not pop-psychology, but this is nonsensical as a person who's spent the greater part of her adulthood first being counseled then "counseling" (not a therapist, just leader in survivor groups) rape victims. And it makes no sense that being beaten up makes a rape more "acceptable" to the rape victim. Nor the other way around, really. I can't even imagine any victim saying or thinking that it was somehow "better" to be beaten. my mind is just blown at that contention.
GodotGrow a vagina 21:12, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- But we can't use our personal experiences as the primary arbitrator of reality. I am not saying that Thornhill and Palmer has nailed this or anything. Like I said further up, I am agnostic on it, and tend to shift back and forth about what I think. However, it is not something that is easily dismissable. There is actual research and data collection that has been done to try and examine these issues. That research is peer-reviewed, published, and has met "replication and extension" as time has gone on. Now there is also criticism of the research, and some of that is very valid and pertinent and some of it is much hand wringing and waving. Tmtoulouse (talk) 21:17, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- Ok, I just finished "natural history of rape", and now i'm even more dubious than i was from teh reviews. Trent, you said "do not use personal examples, yet a many of their sources for their premises and "reasons" are based on individual reports of how women reacted at being raped. One specific example that stands out is the rape of a woman by an ape. The authors used that one example as *evidence* for the idea that men see rape as repugnant only because it is something that fucks with their ability to procreate. Not even a sense of "owing" a woman, or her being "clean" (which i would have argued from a historical/religious perspective". And further, that women see rape as offensive cause they cannot choose their reproductive partner. Their discussions of "women should wear more" is archaic, not evidenciary. There is no evidence that men rape more or less if women are naked, or are wearing a burka, and they don't cite to any sources other than their own feelings about how dressing effects rapists. Again, i realize my background is in Native Religions and not anthropology or psychology or any true science, but nothing here is making me stand up and say "this makes sense" especially in light of evo biologists who have come out against the work in this book. I also find it odd that no one else is really doing work on this that backs it up. I'm not saying the scholarship is shoddy, but I personally am dubious of many of the premises they assert before they begin the statistical research. It reads, to me, like a virtual "scientific reason we should blame the victim, and not blame our animal instincts". And yes, I do admit I read commentaries about rape quite personally, and that is a bias.
GodotGrow a vagina 05:05, 21 February 2012 (UTC)
- None of that though is at the heart of the hypothesis. The book was a pop-science piece and anecdotes and "practical advise" (whether good or bad) is part of the package when writing such a book. The real gist of this comes down to structure of the hypothesis, the reasoning behind it, and the supposed predictions and data that back it up. If you want to argue fairly and convincingly against the hypothesis you can hit it in several ways. One by showing that rape or its cascading effects would never be under evolutionary pressure, two by showing that the claimed predictions of an evolutionary model are faulty or that different predictions would be made, or three showing that the data collected either is faulty or does not back up the predictions. The arguments pro and con depend greatly on what part of the paradigm you want to argue against. The first point gets into the whole argument of the validity of evolutionary psychology, adaptationism, selection pressure, etc. Stuff that we were talking a bit about on the saloon bar with spandrels and exadpatation. The second is more specific, some of the major predictions we have talked about such as distress measures, or "preference" for reproductive age women, etc. The final we haven't really gotten into looking at the actual experiments such as the Carlson work in the early 90s.
- Ok, I just finished "natural history of rape", and now i'm even more dubious than i was from teh reviews. Trent, you said "do not use personal examples, yet a many of their sources for their premises and "reasons" are based on individual reports of how women reacted at being raped. One specific example that stands out is the rape of a woman by an ape. The authors used that one example as *evidence* for the idea that men see rape as repugnant only because it is something that fucks with their ability to procreate. Not even a sense of "owing" a woman, or her being "clean" (which i would have argued from a historical/religious perspective". And further, that women see rape as offensive cause they cannot choose their reproductive partner. Their discussions of "women should wear more" is archaic, not evidenciary. There is no evidence that men rape more or less if women are naked, or are wearing a burka, and they don't cite to any sources other than their own feelings about how dressing effects rapists. Again, i realize my background is in Native Religions and not anthropology or psychology or any true science, but nothing here is making me stand up and say "this makes sense" especially in light of evo biologists who have come out against the work in this book. I also find it odd that no one else is really doing work on this that backs it up. I'm not saying the scholarship is shoddy, but I personally am dubious of many of the premises they assert before they begin the statistical research. It reads, to me, like a virtual "scientific reason we should blame the victim, and not blame our animal instincts". And yes, I do admit I read commentaries about rape quite personally, and that is a bias.
- But we can't use our personal experiences as the primary arbitrator of reality. I am not saying that Thornhill and Palmer has nailed this or anything. Like I said further up, I am agnostic on it, and tend to shift back and forth about what I think. However, it is not something that is easily dismissable. There is actual research and data collection that has been done to try and examine these issues. That research is peer-reviewed, published, and has met "replication and extension" as time has gone on. Now there is also criticism of the research, and some of that is very valid and pertinent and some of it is much hand wringing and waving. Tmtoulouse (talk) 21:17, 20 February 2012 (UTC)
- I have no idea how to even begin responding to this. I'm an expert in religion, not pop-psychology, but this is nonsensical as a person who's spent the greater part of her adulthood first being counseled then "counseling" (not a therapist, just leader in survivor groups) rape victims. And it makes no sense that being beaten up makes a rape more "acceptable" to the rape victim. Nor the other way around, really. I can't even imagine any victim saying or thinking that it was somehow "better" to be beaten. my mind is just blown at that contention.
- Again, I am not saying I buy the hypothesis, but I also don't think it can be dismissed as lightly as everyone here seems to be trying to do. Where this argument succeeds or fails is in the data collection and predictions of the model not on the strength or weakness of anecdotes from either side. Tmtoulouse (talk) 05:31, 21 February 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Scorpion flies
Let me take a step back. Thornhill is entomologist at heart really. His interest in rape started with his work on Scorpion flies. I took a whole course from him just looking at mating strategies of scorpion flies both male and female so there is a lot of material there. But just to summarize to some of the most salient points, scorpion fly males seem to come in two primary phenotypes. The larger phenotype attempts to woo females through the gifts or prey and other displays. Females seem to prefer this males and they are the ones often chosen to copulate with. There is another phenotype that is much smaller, and tries to initiate copulation through forced mating and stealth. It even has several physical characteristics that aid it forcing copulation. This seems a rather classic example of bi-modal sexual selection, of evolution and adaptation. Is it wrong to think about this scenario in an evolutionary frame work? Tmtoulouse (talk) 05:41, 21 February 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Response to Trent on Thornhill and Palmer
You say Thornhill and Palmer's (hereafter T&P) hypothesis cannot be "dismissed...lightly," but I beg to differ. Let me start by saying that my bias is clearly against T&P and I think the book is largely a hack job. I will give a brief overview of the overwhelming amounts of empirical evidence against T&P as well as some theoretical problems. A fatal flaw in both their by-product hypothesis (favored by P, if I remember correctly) and adaptive hypothesis (favored by T) is their reliance on Buss's "sexual strategies theory" (SST). The key piece of evidence in favor of SST that has been cited over and over is Buss (1989). T&P's presentation of Buss (1989) overlooks the limitations of the study that Buss himself notes in regard to sampling. There are also a number of problems with both the study itself and the line of thinking that has gone into similar research. The data analysis itself has been critiqued numerous times (e.g., Eagly and Wood 1999, 2002, Marlowe 2004, Buller 2005). In fact, Buller (2005) devotes an entire chapter to a re-analysis of the data (see here for a quick summary). Furthermore, SST, as well as later and earlier work in this vein, is theoretically flawed. Buss cites Bateman's Principles and Trivers' modification to it with regard to parental investment. This has not been shown to apply to humans (Brown, Laland, and Mulder 2009). Furthermore, it contradicts the ethnographic record and makes unwarranted assumptions about human pre-history, mixing Bateman with the discredited anthropological "Man the Hunter" model. Much rides on the assumption here that status of males is conferred by "resources," but this doesn't apply when women are providing for the majority of the caloric intake (see Lee and Heywood 1999 for an overview of "Man the Hunter"). Furthermore, projecting this misconception back into the archaeological record is a baseless assertion and has been discredited within these fields for quite some time (Conkey and Spector 1984, see Kuhn and Stiner 2006 for a plausible hypothesis that gendered division of labor did not even exist until the Upper Paleolithic). I can comment less confidently on other research used in the book, such as the sociological research on rape, but T&P's "responses" have failed to impress me. They mainly hack away at their critics' "ignorance" of evolutionary theory (probably justified in some cases), but largely elide challenges on statistical and empirical grounds (e.g., Travis 2003). I also find comparisons with scorpion flies to be irrelevant to humans, especially in the anthropomorphized way T&P use it. Apparently, this work, though a side issue IMO, has also been criticized (e.g., Kock, Engels, Fritsche, and Sauer 2008). Their use of the naturalistic fallacy is disingenuous when they use it as an escape hatch or means to handwave away ethical criticism, then go on to give policy prescription (see Sloan Wilson, Dietrich, and Clark 2003). I won't get into the political or polemical inflections of the work any further, though. The whole thing is a house of cards, the kind of work that treads the blurry line between science and pseudoscience. I'm sure I can come up with many more problems with a re-read, but the premises have holes big enough to drive a truck through anyway. In short, this is bad science in the first degree. Nebuchadnezzar (talk) 23:22, 25 February 2012 (UTC)
- Also, Brownmiller claims she was quote-mined. I'm not familiar with her work, but that is another criticism that I haven't seen addressed. Nebuchadnezzar (talk) 00:32, 26 February 2012 (UTC)
I think that Brownmiller herself could figure in the examples of just-so-stories, "But, nevertheless, we cannot work around the fact that in terms of human anatomy the possibility of forcible intercourse incontrovertibly exists. This single factor may have been sufficient to have caused the creation of a male ideology of rape. When men discovered that they could rape, they proceeded to do it. Later, much later, under certain circumstances they even came to consider rape a crime. [...] For if the first rape was an unexpected battle founded on the first woman's refusal, the second rape was indubitably planned. Indeed, one of the earliest forms of male bonding must have been the gang rape of one woman by a band of marauding men. This accomplished, rape became not only a male prerogative, but man's basic weapon of force against woman, the principal agent of his will and her fear. [...] Man's discovery that his genitalia could serve as a weapon to prehistoric times, along with the use of fire and the first crude stone axe. From prehistoric times to the present, I believe, rape has played a critical function. It is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear." From her own site. It's interesting to note that this idea isn't incompatible with the rape-as-an-adaptation hypothesis; one could argue that such social control increased human males' fitness or produced more enduring groups/tribes, and you have both theories blended nicely. Still, you'd have all the problems regarding the actual biological feasibility of rape as an adaptation, and of positing rape as a universal social-control tool. Perhaps rape-as-adaptation itself is even less troublesome, if we're willing to accept the notion that socio/psychopathy may be an "adaptive strategy", it could often be just a result of the typical lack of empathy, and even seen as a "tool" or "weapon", but more likely limited to their personal relationships, rather than a society-wide thing. Ironically I think it would actually make both ideas begin to look more reasonable, getting rid of the "universalism" and the strict adaptationism.
[edit] CDC study
"A 2011 study by the Center for Disease Control estimated that 18% of women in the U.S. have experienced some form of rape in their lifetime, with 12% forcibly raped, 5% experiencing an unsuccessful attempt at forcible rape, and 8% at some point having sex while intoxicated, this being defined as "rape" for the purposes of the study."
None of these numbers add up to 18%... — Unsigned, by: Longnameislonger / talk / contribs
- Because some women fall into multiple categories. Omar (gibber) 15:27, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- Yeah, there's nothing there, or even in the report, that says that they're treating these categories as mutually exclusive.
bomination 15:32, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- Yeah, there's nothing there, or even in the report, that says that they're treating these categories as mutually exclusive.
8% at some point having sex while intoxicated, this being defined as "rape" for the purposes of the study — that kind of definition makes no sense. There are many cases where a woman has sex while intoxicated and she would not consider herself to have been raped, nor would most other people either. First time I ever had sex with my current girlfriend, we were both quite intoxicated — I've never thought to ask her if that was "rape", because it just seems too dumb a question — if it was, would she have moved in with me and stayed with me for the last 2+ years? Zack Martin
22:37, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- One of the main aspects of "consenting adults" is that one cannot give consent while intoxicated. What "intoxicated" means, however, is another question. You and your sweetie sharing a bottle of wine is not the same as she was unconscious/unable to say no/etc. etc. Also, people move in with and marry their abusers all the time, so that has no bearing on the issue at hand. Maybe you're an abusive and controlling person. P-Foster Talk "The existing superstructure has handed out crumbs. We don’t want crumbs; we want the whole loaf now.” --Ras Frank I 22:42, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- By law, whether you are married or single, into sex or hate sex, you cannot give consent if you are intoxicated. For anything, but the way, but including sex. it is rape,legally. and in that context, the numbers are like 100%. But having done the research on this, the CDC case specifically means unwated sex where alcohol was involved. generally, what is commonly known on campuses as "passed out cold, gang bangs" ;-)
Godot On a perdu le contrôle 22:43, 16 April 2012 (UTC)(edit con)
- Do they actually call it that? Fuck, I must have gone to a mega-posh and upper-crust university to have missed out on all that fun...
moral 22:49, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- NO, i have no idea what they call it. ;-) My best friend was a victim of exactly that. She was a total slut (and I, the geek side kick that never got me none), and i do mean it with every bit of prudeness there. slep with anyoen who would pay attention to her. But she had been at a party, doign what she did - passed out, and everyone had another go, as it were. It's more common than you woudl think. but i wonder WHY. it cannot be fun to do someone who is passed out. Anyhow, the CDC does specifically mean women who had no intention of having sex prior to being drunk. just to clarify.
Godot On a perdu le contrôle 22:52, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- Just so long as we're not counting the ones who intend to pass out and play village bike.
narchist 23:19, 16 April 2012 (UTC)
- Just so long as we're not counting the ones who intend to pass out and play village bike.
- NO, i have no idea what they call it. ;-) My best friend was a victim of exactly that. She was a total slut (and I, the geek side kick that never got me none), and i do mean it with every bit of prudeness there. slep with anyoen who would pay attention to her. But she had been at a party, doign what she did - passed out, and everyone had another go, as it were. It's more common than you woudl think. but i wonder WHY. it cannot be fun to do someone who is passed out. Anyhow, the CDC does specifically mean women who had no intention of having sex prior to being drunk. just to clarify.
- Do they actually call it that? Fuck, I must have gone to a mega-posh and upper-crust university to have missed out on all that fun...
Suppose two people are both highly intoxicated, but still conscious, and each wants to have sex with the other, so they do. So it is not unwilling for either party, but according to the principle "you cannot give consent if you are intoxicated" it is non-consensual therefore rape. But the question then is, if they are both equally drunk, and if the initiative was mutual, who raped who? Or did each of them rape the other? Zack Martin
03:50, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- That study, like most others of its type, was based on the methodology developed by Mary Koss in the 1980s. This methodology has come under some criticism because, the critics say, it includes as rape victims large numbers of people who had sex while a little tipsy and regretted it in the morning. The disconnect between what most people would consider "rape" and what legally constitutes rape is unfortunate, but is probably necessary to avoid giving carte blanche to get people drunk and diddle them while they are passed out.
ListenerXTalkerX 04:04, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- Putting aside next morning regret, one has to consider the possibility that someone could be prosecuted for rape even though the alleged "victim" felt that they consented, didn't regret it at all, and doesn't want the prosecution to proceed, but it goes ahead anyway because someone nonetheless considers the consent to be invalid. Consider here the Canadian Supreme Court case R. v. J.A. (the actual factual background to that case is much more complicated than what I've described, but my admittedly simplistic scenario could nonetheless happen under that court ruling.) Zack Martin
04:41, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- It was my understanding that the victim actually had to press charges for a prosecution to proceed. That was certainly the case in R. v. J.A.
ListenerXTalkerX 04:52, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- She did, but then she tried to withdraw them and they refused. It is my understanding that there is no legal requirement for a victim to press charges in order for a prosecution to take place. In criminal law, the case is between the Government and the perpetrator, not between victim and perpetrator, and the Government is under no legal obligation to follow the victim's wishes in prosecuting or not prosecuting. Of course, as a practical matter, prosecuting without the free cooperation of the victim will very often be impossible, due to a lack of evidence other than their testimony - but one can conceive of possible circumstances in which other evidence exists such that the victim's cooperation is not required (e.g. if the sexual act was videotaped). Zack Martin
05:09, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- She did, but then she tried to withdraw them and they refused. It is my understanding that there is no legal requirement for a victim to press charges in order for a prosecution to take place. In criminal law, the case is between the Government and the perpetrator, not between victim and perpetrator, and the Government is under no legal obligation to follow the victim's wishes in prosecuting or not prosecuting. Of course, as a practical matter, prosecuting without the free cooperation of the victim will very often be impossible, due to a lack of evidence other than their testimony - but one can conceive of possible circumstances in which other evidence exists such that the victim's cooperation is not required (e.g. if the sexual act was videotaped). Zack Martin
- Well, I keep remembering the old "joke" about how a woman walks into a police station saying she may have been raped. "When did you realise you might have been raped?" the officer asks "This morning, when the cheque bounced." Indeed, I think some judges have thrown out rape accusations based on the fact that "being drunk doesn't mean you were raped" - but that definition is almost certainly needed to help bring those cases to light so it can actually be looked at properly. If you were allowed to give consent under the influence, it would cause a lot more problems. Just for an example, tattoo artists won't tattoo drunk people because they can't get consent (the old comedy routine of "waking up" with a tattoo doesn't really happen in reality). If you could give consent under the influence, then it would absolve all tattoo artists and body-modders of their responsibility to ensure their customers actually want what they're getting, as its permanent. That's a non-sex example, but its analogous to most situations where informed consent is required, as drugs can impair judgement, it can easily remove the "informed" aspect. But it's only with hindsight can be really assess the level of consent given with any degree of accuracy.
gnostic 09:11, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- In your tattoo parlour example, the person wanting the tattoo may be blind drunk, but the tattoo artist is sober. What about sex between two people who are both horrendously drunk? If neither can give informed consent, are they raping each other? Zack Martin
09:31, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- That is why you analyse it in hindsight to find out if someone was acting wrongly, but don't preclude it as a crime "by definition".
moral 09:52, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- Which I haven't done - I certainly agree that sex with someone who is intoxicated can be rape, it all depends the totality of the circumstances. The problem I find is there are very many people (I'm not saying you are one of them) who want to draw up simplistic rules in an area where doing so is impossible. Zack Martin
09:55, 17 April 2012 (UTC)
- Which I haven't done - I certainly agree that sex with someone who is intoxicated can be rape, it all depends the totality of the circumstances. The problem I find is there are very many people (I'm not saying you are one of them) who want to draw up simplistic rules in an area where doing so is impossible. Zack Martin
- That is why you analyse it in hindsight to find out if someone was acting wrongly, but don't preclude it as a crime "by definition".
- In your tattoo parlour example, the person wanting the tattoo may be blind drunk, but the tattoo artist is sober. What about sex between two people who are both horrendously drunk? If neither can give informed consent, are they raping each other? Zack Martin
- It was my understanding that the victim actually had to press charges for a prosecution to proceed. That was certainly the case in R. v. J.A.
- Putting aside next morning regret, one has to consider the possibility that someone could be prosecuted for rape even though the alleged "victim" felt that they consented, didn't regret it at all, and doesn't want the prosecution to proceed, but it goes ahead anyway because someone nonetheless considers the consent to be invalid. Consider here the Canadian Supreme Court case R. v. J.A. (the actual factual background to that case is much more complicated than what I've described, but my admittedly simplistic scenario could nonetheless happen under that court ruling.) Zack Martin
[edit] Male rape
Does anyone think we should have a section on rape of men? That is a crime that is given far less attention by society than it deserves, and even justified by the media. Until fairly recently, it wasn't even considered a crime by the FBI. Mr. Anon (talk) 01:16, 4 May 2012 (UTC)
- Sure. TOW has has sections on the various permutations of rape, we could do something similar. As long as it's well sourced and doesn't come off as a men's activist rant, it would be a good addition. It may even warrant its own article, as there are many that don't consider it possible, or even a crime at all--"Shut up, Brx." 01:59, 4 May 2012 (UTC)
- "TOW"?
ListenerXTalkerX 04:23, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- He means Wikipedia. ArchieGoodwin (talk) 04:23, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- I thought we did have a section on that, unless I'm getting confused with WP's entry. Certainly more important than a one-sentence "section" that says rape occasionally happens at rock gigs.
theist 16:38, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- I thought we did have a section on that, unless I'm getting confused with WP's entry. Certainly more important than a one-sentence "section" that says rape occasionally happens at rock gigs.
- He means Wikipedia. ArchieGoodwin (talk) 04:23, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- "TOW"?
It's actually a more important part of this article than you might think, for a reason such as this: my first reaction was "well men only get raped by their male partners or in prison". I googled, and found that a significant number of men feel "used" during sex. I put it in quotes cause most of us, my self included, would NEVER think it's rape. Men always want it, right? man and woman are hot and bothered, man says no, but is clearly hard, woman climbs on. That's not rape, rigth? But when you read the stories, men often feel "ashamed", "not what I wanted", "suddenly, without warning i was inside of her" (think "suddenly he was inside of me. it sounds worse, but is it?). So from someone who 1 hour ago said "why do we need something other than what we have about gay rape or prision rape', I think it's an important thing to write. and my gut still says "it's not the same". but it IS the same. --
Godot 18:02, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- It's an issue. Reigning culture often casts males as desirous of sex under all conditions (providing it is a girl and sufficently hot, of course... -_-) and refusing sex is often seen as weak or unmanly. It's far more common to hear men (and I use this term for culture's image of men, not for the actual demographic, that would be a gross generalization) complaining that their girlfriends refuse to put out or fail to satisfy their manly man sex urges than to hear how a guy just wants to take it easy and spend some time together but his girlfriend demands too much sex... unless it's played for comedy, and is often a shot at the poor poor man and his 'fire-breathing whore girlfriend,' which is yet another caricature invented to take pot-shots at. It's a case where dominant culture casting males as more powerful and sexual actually backfires and can take away their comfort in saying no. Pretty big discussion date in my feminism seminar last semester. ±
KnightOfTL;DRgoing galt: the literal crazy train 18:20, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- and then you have teh "climaxing" issue. BUT HE CLIMAXED, he clearly wanted it. I've heard that used on women, to. biologcial processes do not mean you "wanted it". it means your willy is being pulled on at the right rate to trick the body into responding. doesn't have anything to do with the mind.
Godot 18:22, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- It's an issue. Reigning culture often casts males as desirous of sex under all conditions (providing it is a girl and sufficently hot, of course... -_-) and refusing sex is often seen as weak or unmanly. It's far more common to hear men (and I use this term for culture's image of men, not for the actual demographic, that would be a gross generalization) complaining that their girlfriends refuse to put out or fail to satisfy their manly man sex urges than to hear how a guy just wants to take it easy and spend some time together but his girlfriend demands too much sex... unless it's played for comedy, and is often a shot at the poor poor man and his 'fire-breathing whore girlfriend,' which is yet another caricature invented to take pot-shots at. It's a case where dominant culture casting males as more powerful and sexual actually backfires and can take away their comfort in saying no. Pretty big discussion date in my feminism seminar last semester. ±
- There's a whole trope dedicated to it (in fact, I think it's a very good resource for this topic). As the Cracked quote says "Obviously if you're watching a scene with a woman tied to a bed while a man forces sex on her, the final act of that movie will involve said man getting shot in the face by Bruce Willis. If, on the other hand, it's a man being tied down and forced into sex by a pretty lady, well, you're watching a wacky romantic comedy."
gnostic 18:28, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- I would argue that climax CAN have to do with the mind (I know plenty of people that can get off without being directly stimulated, especially during BDSM activities) but it doesn't have to and in cases of rape it certainly does not. But yes, I agree: there's a lot of not so much woo but bad cultural misconceptions that can and should be debunked here. Why do we not have a Sex Myth section or even just a Feminism section for articles about this stuff? I would argue that myths of this caliber can be more dangerous than some pseudosciences because they are very very widely assumed as true and followed rather than being propagated by a community of believers.±
KnightOfTL;DRfree guybrush threepwood! no new taxes! down with porcelain! 18:29, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- Sadly, such an article takes like research, and such. But i think we are suggesting that there is enough here for an actual article on male rape, with a linked tie in "not all rape happens to women" or something, on this page?
Godot 18:35, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- Rightly or wrongly, an erection (of an adult man) is usually interpreted as sexual consent. Of course, a man may feel coerced or pressured into sex, and that may be considered a sexual offence, but I don't think it's usually classed as rape per se (correct me if I'm wrong). There's also this situation (a woman humping a man in his sleep); presented here as comedy, but it's not impossible & would certainly be a sexual violation (I see it no reason not to consider rape). Щєазєюіδ
Methinks it is a Weasel 18:47, 9 May 2012 (UTC)
- Rightly or wrongly, an erection (of an adult man) is usually interpreted as sexual consent. Of course, a man may feel coerced or pressured into sex, and that may be considered a sexual offence, but I don't think it's usually classed as rape per se (correct me if I'm wrong). There's also this situation (a woman humping a man in his sleep); presented here as comedy, but it's not impossible & would certainly be a sexual violation (I see it no reason not to consider rape). Щєазєюіδ
- Sadly, such an article takes like research, and such. But i think we are suggesting that there is enough here for an actual article on male rape, with a linked tie in "not all rape happens to women" or something, on this page?
- I would argue that climax CAN have to do with the mind (I know plenty of people that can get off without being directly stimulated, especially during BDSM activities) but it doesn't have to and in cases of rape it certainly does not. But yes, I agree: there's a lot of not so much woo but bad cultural misconceptions that can and should be debunked here. Why do we not have a Sex Myth section or even just a Feminism section for articles about this stuff? I would argue that myths of this caliber can be more dangerous than some pseudosciences because they are very very widely assumed as true and followed rather than being propagated by a community of believers.±
At the very lease, a section should be dedicated to this vastly underlooked issue. Whether or not there is enough data for an entire article is debatable. It most certainly is possible; see the article I linked to that has a real-life example where the victim is mocked by law enforcement officials and the press, while the perpetrator I have heard has even been celebrated in some circles. Mr. Anon (talk) 22:40, 13 May 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Rape and the Occupy Movement.
I have removed the section. Here is my reason for doing so. Rape will often occur when men and women are jammed in close quarters for any period of time: Occupy is by no means remarkable for such occurrences. We could just as easily have sections titled "rape and Woodstock 99," or "rape and that party in the frat house on State Street last weekend." Theory of Practice "the standards of the site are ultimately an expression of the community makeup, and not a set of rules or policies." 23:13, 4 August 2012 (UTC)
- "Rape and what I did last night" AceThe Rep Grows Bigger 23:17, 4 August 2012 (UTC)
- Also, that would make it about Occ.Mov and not rape. (ps. bad bad ace). --
GodotL'important c'est d'aimer 23:18, 4 August 2012 (UTC)
- whilst I fully understand your point I believe that accusations of rape were used to try to discredit the OCW movement. Indeed, one of the links was about this very point. See, for example, this. Bad Faith (talk) 23:28, 4 August 2012 (UTC)
- Which is fine, but thematically, it's not about rape it's about occupy. Might be a good section there, "Media lies about occupy", type things.--
GodotL'important c'est d'aimer 00:55, 5 August 2012 (UTC)
- Indeed, in an article about rape, stuff on Occupy is not important. In an article about Occupy is a different thing entirely. Confuddling priorities like that is just a sign of propaganda.
theist 22:47, 5 August 2012 (UTC)
- Indeed, in an article about rape, stuff on Occupy is not important. In an article about Occupy is a different thing entirely. Confuddling priorities like that is just a sign of propaganda.
- Which is fine, but thematically, it's not about rape it's about occupy. Might be a good section there, "Media lies about occupy", type things.--
- whilst I fully understand your point I believe that accusations of rape were used to try to discredit the OCW movement. Indeed, one of the links was about this very point. See, for example, this. Bad Faith (talk) 23:28, 4 August 2012 (UTC)
- Also, that would make it about Occ.Mov and not rape. (ps. bad bad ace). --
I believe that accusations of rape were used to try to discredit the OCW movement As I expressed in one of my edits, I found the section absolutely ridiculous. It tried to argue that the opponents' points were invalid, because they would apply to any semi-anarchic movement, but presumably the opponents would have objected to any other semi-anarchic movement as well. Also, one has to ask whether Occupy's message is so incredibly important, and the Occupations such an exclusively effective manner of expressing it, that "well, that's just the price you have to pay" is an appropriate response to rape. Seems a bit callous to me. "Media lies about occupy", type things An argument is not a "lie" simply because you don't agree with it05:26, 6 August 2012 (UTC)
- Section should be moved to OWS page, it's more applicable there. I also agree with the above poster. Rape incidents (and basically any other criminal activity or anything that looked too hippy-ish) were used in an attempt to discredit OWS, but circling the wagons because of this is just rank hypocrisy. ("Well, rape is okay if it's for a good cause!") Or you can just click here for a more eloquent version of my point. Nebuchadnezzar (talk) 05:38, 6 August 2012 (UTC)
- "Well, rape is okay if it's for a good cause!" sounds like something a youtube celeb would say prior to being spit-roasted by Rebecca Watson and PZ Myers and triggering a DEFCON 1 level drama.
moral 09:44, 6 August 2012 (UTC)
- "Well, rape is okay if it's for a good cause!" sounds like something a youtube celeb would say prior to being spit-roasted by Rebecca Watson and PZ Myers and triggering a DEFCON 1 level drama.
- Section should be moved to OWS page, it's more applicable there. I also agree with the above poster. Rape incidents (and basically any other criminal activity or anything that looked too hippy-ish) were used in an attempt to discredit OWS, but circling the wagons because of this is just rank hypocrisy. ("Well, rape is okay if it's for a good cause!") Or you can just click here for a more eloquent version of my point. Nebuchadnezzar (talk) 05:38, 6 August 2012 (UTC)
[edit] This article reads oddly
I felt like I was reading an internet forum post, filled with lots of uncited opinions, instead of a formal article inside an encyclopedia. It needs some major cleanup to bring it up to the professional level. ---- 108.15.226.110 (talk) 01:48, 20 November 2012 (UTC)
- Rationalwiki is not an encyclopedia Evil fascistoh noez 01:50, 20 November 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Just odd wording
Just want to point out the odd wording here:
| These, taken together, lead many people, specifically men, to believe that they have license to perform acts of rape. |
Now, if you're going to use "specifically" like that, then you need to reduce a potentially wide group to a smaller group. E.g., we say "this situation affects minorities, specifically black women", not "this situations affects black women, specifically minorities". So, this is trying to say that the set of "people who believe they have a liceses to perform acts of rape" is actually larger than the set of "men", which is 50% of the population - and therefore all men believe "they have a liceses to perform acts of rape" because they're included in that set. Obviously, this isn't the case. Normally, I'd just go ahead and change this but I felt it may be worth pointing out.
narchist
15:44, 5 December 2012 (UTC)
[edit] Claim by tumblr user
I came across a claim on tumblr today that said that the gender statistics for rape are more or less even: http://listener-blue.tumblr.com/post/60396783641/smitethepatriarchy-nietzschesghost How accurate is this? Mr. Anon (talk) 03:51, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
- Not very, according to the rest of that thing. SophieWilder
09:14, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
- Woops I read that wrongly. Looking at the CDC statistics, if we assume that every "made to penetrate" is a woman forcing a man to penetrate her, then men are indeed as likely to be raped as women. 203.51.106.236 (talk) 12:12, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
- That's a stupid assumption. Instead of doing weirdo assumption-driven, definition-stretching, statistical abuse, why not look at page 1 of the report, (page 11 of the PDF you linked to), bottom right hand corner, and tell me how 18.3% of women is "more or less even" with 1.4% of men. PowderSmokeAndLeather: Say something once, why say it again?.
13:27, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
- You haven't bothered to read the Tumblr post or the CDC report. Rape is defined by the CDC as the act of being forcibly penetrated. By their definition, a man forcibly penetrating a woman is rape, a man being forcibly anally penetrated is rape, a man being forced to penetrate someone else is NOT rape.
- By my definition, being forced to penetrate someone IS rape. For arguments sake, let's call it non-consensual sex.
- On the 2nd page of the report, you will find that 4.8% of men have reported that they were forced to penetrate someone over their lifetime. This means the lifetime prevalence of non-consensual sex for males is somewhere between 4.8% and 6.2%. If you only read the first two pages, this is significantly less than the 18.1% of women who have been forcibly penetrated.
- However if you look at the annual statistics (the best reflection of society at the present time) you will find that 1,270,000 women experienced non-consensual sex and 1,267,000 men experienced non-consensual sex. Similarly 2,600,000 women experienced unwanted sexual contact and 2,565,000 men experienced unwanted sexual contact. The only difference in statistics is in sexual coercion (psychological rather than physical force), and even then the difference is only 25%.
- Care to explain to me what part of that is statistical abuse? 203.51.106.236 (talk) 01:27, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- Are these statistics including or discounting prison rape, which overwhelmingly is male on male? Mr. Anon (talk) 01:39, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- You telling me that if a woman ties a man down and forces him to have sex with her, the CDC doesn't count that as rape? What's wrong with people? Wehpudicabok [話] [変] 01:44, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- Including.
- However the prevalence of prison rape is 1.91% (meta-analysis), up to 4% by some studies on a smaller population. While it would skew the statistics, it wouldn't account for them all.
- Plus a majority of jail rape is penetrating sex, the bulk of male non-consensual sex according to the CDC is "made to penetrate".
- And yes, by the CDC definition being tied down and forced to penetrate someone is not rape. 203.51.106.236 (talk) 01:47, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- Okay I just read over the relevant part of the PDF, and they do count that as a form of sexual violence, they just don't use that particular word. That actually makes me feel better; I thought they were treating such violence as some sort of "lesser" crime. Wehpudicabok [話] [変] 01:49, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- The problem is that many states do not consider "rape" a crime applicable to female perpetrators on male victims, skewing federal statistics. As a result forced penetration is considered sexual assault, but often not "rape" for the purposes of minimum sentencing. Mr. Anon (talk) 02:16, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- Okay I just read over the relevant part of the PDF, and they do count that as a form of sexual violence, they just don't use that particular word. That actually makes me feel better; I thought they were treating such violence as some sort of "lesser" crime. Wehpudicabok [話] [変] 01:49, 23 September 2013 (UTC)
- That's a stupid assumption. Instead of doing weirdo assumption-driven, definition-stretching, statistical abuse, why not look at page 1 of the report, (page 11 of the PDF you linked to), bottom right hand corner, and tell me how 18.3% of women is "more or less even" with 1.4% of men. PowderSmokeAndLeather: Say something once, why say it again?.
- Woops I read that wrongly. Looking at the CDC statistics, if we assume that every "made to penetrate" is a woman forcing a man to penetrate her, then men are indeed as likely to be raped as women. 203.51.106.236 (talk) 12:12, 22 September 2013 (UTC)
[edit] Was I raped?
I am a man. I used to be in a relationship with a woman who was violent, abusive, and seriously mentally ill. She would attack me physically; mostly she didn't hit me, but she'd jump on top of me, try to hold me on the ground, tickle me against my will even when I told her to stop, if I tried to leave she would block the door then chase me down the street and try to tackle me to the ground. (I am not very fit, she was fitter than me, so at times she could outrun me.) If I tried to defend myself against her physical attacks, she threatened to file domestic violence charges. This most often happened at night. Then I would leave, and she would say she was sorry, beg me to come back, etc., and be the sucker for punishment that I was, I would come back. She wasn't like this every night, only some; after a while, I learned some things that would set her off. One would be refusing her sexual advances. If she wanted sex and I didn't feel like it, often a violent outburst would result. So on, I can't remember exactly how many occasions, but at least one and probably more than one, I had sex with her, even though I really didn't want to, because I was afraid of triggering another violent outburst of hers by refusing. Does this mean she raped me? I don't think I freely consented, because I didn't want to do it but only did it out of fear of her domestic violence. Hear me roar (talk) 12:33, 17 January 2014 (UTC)
- This sounds like a question for a cop or an attorney, not for a random chat board on the internet. PowderSmokeAndLeather: Say something once, why say it again?.
14:01, 17 January 2014 (UTC)
- Assuming that you are conveying the facts correctly, yes, it looks like you were in an abusive relationship, and you were the victim of a martial/relationship rape at least once. Whether this falls under the legal definition of rape or sexual assault in your jurisdiction though is an entirely different question, unfortunately.
- And, to paraphrase PSaL, is there any particular reason for asking this here?--ZooGuard (talk) 16:01, 17 January 2014 (UTC)
- I feel the article totally ignores the unique challenges that male victims of rape, especially male victims with female perpetrators, face in society. People ignore that scenario completely, or say it is so "rare" it can be ignored. A lot of "feminists" especially are guilty of this. They claim to care about victims, but they only do when the circumstances fit their ideological presuppositions (i.e. men as perpetrators, women as victims). Hear me roar (talk) 00:10, 18 January 2014 (UTC)
- Anecdotal evidence suggests that some, at least, rape survivor support groups and feminist groups have don't really know how to handle male victims of rape and sexual abuse.
Radioactive Misanthrope 00:24, 18 January 2014 (UTC)
- Any bias against anecdotal evidence that I may have aside, this was an interesting read. The question is, does the problem illustrated in the article demand more intersectionality from society? And if so, is RationalWiki really the right place to start with that? Without statistical significance to back it up, I'm afraid that I can't say 'yay, completely worth our time to be considerate towards that', but I can't find it in my heart to say 'nay, you are not statistically significant' currently. Nullahnung (talk) 00:47, 18 January 2014 (UTC)
- Anecdotal evidence suggests that some, at least, rape survivor support groups and feminist groups have don't really know how to handle male victims of rape and sexual abuse.
- I feel the article totally ignores the unique challenges that male victims of rape, especially male victims with female perpetrators, face in society. People ignore that scenario completely, or say it is so "rare" it can be ignored. A lot of "feminists" especially are guilty of this. They claim to care about victims, but they only do when the circumstances fit their ideological presuppositions (i.e. men as perpetrators, women as victims). Hear me roar (talk) 00:10, 18 January 2014 (UTC)