Thread:User talk:WaitingforGodot/New Bible for the MRA crowd/reply (8)

Is that really a medical situation, or a result of socialization - seriously. I've done some recent reading about the diagnosis of ADD and ADHD suggesting that it's a lot of poppycock and a little bit of fact.

So consider what we do to boys and girls from the earliest of ages. 1. In studies of new mothers and mothers with 2 children (one of each gender), american scholars look at how quickly boys vs. girls were picked up after they began crying. Girls were picked up on average 5 minutes earlier than boys. Girls were held longer as well. in arabic countries, the numbers were almost exactly reversed, but there was still clear gender differences. 2. Studies looking at how fathers hold their babies. Girls are cradled and cooed to. Boys are bounced, tossed and swung. 3. Studies on playgrounds show that children who are fighting with eachother are treated differently depending on their gender (by teachers and parents). Similar, if a girl falls she is helped up, asked if she is ok, quietly given a bandaid with no comment. Boys are told to "shake it off", and they are given their bandaid as a badge of honor to show off. 4. Teachers studied when asking questions will tend to praise girls for trying and move on. They will encourage the boys to "work it out" at least once.

Far more than individuality, our society creates who we are. If we value looks over substance; if we think make-up will matter; if we think it's worth spending 12 bucks on a new CD of some teen pop star, or on the newest video game; if we want to play dolls, or barbie (different games) or dress up or teacher or cops or cowboys or jacks or duck duck goose.... And when a child bucks the system for whatever reason, he or she is pulled back in by name calling, bullying, teasing, befriending... but it's critical to keep the system going as it should. Kids who actually escape all that are few and far between and often scared and scared.

"feminism" is not blaming anyone, really. Not when you read it at its core. It's saying "here is what we have, after 10,000 years of being humans... let's look at what patterns we are creating in our kids, long before they have any idea who they are, and see if we can change those patterns".