Paul Elam



Paul Elam is a men's rights activist who founded and runs what is more or less the men's rights movement's flagship website, A Voice for Men.

In many respects, he could be considered the unofficial leader of said movement, if not for the infighting between him and other manosphere mullahs such as W. F. Price (The Spearhead) and Daryush Valizadeh (Return of Kings).

Register-Her.com
In 2011, Elam established the site Register-Her.com, which publishes the personal information of women the site claims "have caused significant harm to innocent individuals either by the direct action of crimes like rape, assault, child molestation and murder, or by the false accusation of crimes against others." While the list includes women who have been sent to prison for various crimes, it also includes others who were acquitted, and some whose "crime" is expressing an opinion that MRA's don't like. It also lists any rape victim whose court case results in anything but a full conviction and sentencing as a "false accuser".

The site's real purpose is for documenting what it terms "anti-male bigotry," which, in essence, means being female and daring to express an opinion with which men's rights activists disagree. These are the posts that are cross-referenced in the sidebars and banners of A Voice For Men, with an image of a bloody knife as its logo and the slogan "TRUTH is the real bitch". The point behind listing the registered criminals (which include female offenders who have been executed, as well as female offenders currently serving life sentences ) is to conflate real crimes with displeasing the MRA hive mind.

One alleged "bigot" singled out by Elam on the site was a mommy blogger who wrote about her discomfort with having adult men help her young daughters use the bathroom at their preschool. After she was attacked on men's rights sites, the blogger took down her post, apologizing for her "demonization of men." However, this mea culpa failed to pacify Elam, who maintained, "You targeted fathers, and just fathers. It strikes me that you have never really been held to account for any of your actions in life. It is quite likely that the concept of complete, selfless accountability is just completely foreign to you."

Elam, meanwhile, has shown zero concern over the fact that his site targets only one gender or that doxxing innocent people has (or could potentially have) real-world consequences like harassment and stalking. In fact, he has stated that the site could feature a listee's "name, address, phone number … even her routes to and from work," though to date he has not gone so far as publishing addresses and phone numbers. He once offered a cash reward to whoever was able to discover the real name of an anonymous feminist blogger.

WhiteRibbon.org
The White Ribbon Campaign was established in 1991 following the enacted by antifeminist Marc Lépine, a mass-shooting which resulted in the death of 14 women, as a symbol of opposition to violence against women and solidarity between genders.

In October 2014, Elam launched a copycat campaign under the domain WhiteRibbon.org in order to attack the existing campaign. Aside from a few articles reposted from other websites, WhiteRibbon.org itself is pretty bare. That is to say, if you don't count the plea for donations in the top right corner of the page. According to Elam, "all donations for our White Ribbon effort will be used to maintain and enhance this website", which presumably means that they will go the same way as the rest of the A Voice for Men donations, rather than towards any substantial effort to support victims of any kind of violence.

Rape apology
Elam once accused women who've been raped of bringing the crime committed against them upon themselves because "they are stupid (and often arrogant) enough to walk though [sic] life with the equivalent of a [sic] I'M A STUPID, CONNIVING BITCH – PLEASE RAPE ME neon sign glowing above their empty little narcissistic heads." He has also stated that he would vote to acquit in the event he were called to serve on the jury in a rape trial even if he knew for a fact that the accused were guilty.

"Bash a Violent Bitch Month"
Elam once wrote that October should become "Bash a Violent Bitch Month", in response to the Jezebel article, "Have You Ever Beat Up A Boyfriend? Cause, Uh, We Have". The idea was that male survivors of domestic violence should "beat the living shit" out of their abusers. Elam went on to state:

However, Elam has clarified that this piece was satire with "satire" tags throughout:

And why was he not serious? Elam clarifies (with a helpful "not satire" tag):

Ah.

Pocketing donations
Elam admitted after the fact to using an unspecified amount of money donated to run A Voice for Men to cover his own personal living expenses. He did not disclose his intention to use some of the money for this purpose to potential donors in advance, only stating that it would go toward "dedicated servers, image royalties, legal fees, internet radio premiums, various kinds of computer and media hardware," and travel expenses for AVfM-related public appearances. None of this comes as much of a surprise since like the vast majority of men's rights "activism", A Voice for Men does basically nothing with concrete real-world civil rights results such as protests, lobbying politicians, buying ad-time on television, or charity work for disadvantaged men. He has also stated that there is no distinction between his personal finances and that of the website, meaning that any donations to the website are spent exactly as he sees fit, and rely exactly on the trust of the donator.

Also, showing what a great guy he is, he has actually banned people during fundraising events for donating some but not "enough" and once bragged about men in financial trouble giving donations out of their unemployment checks.

Jury nullification
Jury nullification occurs when someone (or, as local laws vary) on a jury at a jury trial believes that the accused is legally guilty but morally blameless and so lets them go. Elam writes that:

Hypocrisy
There are so many examples of Paul Elam's breathtakingly hypocritical behavior that could be highlighted here, but if one is to look for the definitive example of complete lack of self-awareness and unbelievable irony on his part, one need look no further than the "advice" he gave to Anita Sarkeesian near the end of the hack "documentary" The Sarkeesian Effect:

"...that you really do deserve and need to get some help. Whatever is driving you to push people and to harm people, whatever drives you to provoke people and take their reaction and raise money off of it is sociopathic behavior. And, there may be help, I don't know if it's your childhood or your relationship life, but rather than just say something terrible and rude to you, I'd like to urge you to please get some help."

This comes from the guy who made a drunken video with his other A Voice for Men cohorts where he went on a tirade about Jessica Valenti not being interested in giving any of those guys blow-jobs, as well as making crass comments about another feminist's "pussy", and where one of the AVFM allies even slurred something about "good rape". . It really seems to be the case that Elam could do with a hell of a lot of self-reflection before he accuses others of "needing to get some help".

Stopped clock
Elam did not support Donald Trump (nor Hillary Clinton) in the 2016 election, citing as reasons Trump's support of the Great Wall of America and the War on Drugs.