Conversion therapy

I want people to know that conversion therapy is literal torture.

Conversion therapy (sometimes called reparative therapy) refers to a wide range of pseudoscientific, homophobic, and/or transphobic practices. Those who practice it believe that people who are not heterosexual and/or are transgender can and should be "cured" of their status, and thus they believe that by practicing conversion therapy, they can change their sexual orientation or gender identity. These notions run contrary to the official positions of most of the world's governing bodies in the fields of psychiatry and psychology. Compare exorcism.

Someone who once identified as LGBT and no longer does may be called an ex-gay, and may be part of the ex-gay movement, a mostly Christian social movement which advocates for ex-gays and for the effectiveness of reparative therapy, and encourages LGBT people to become ex-gay through reparative therapy. A further, rather puzzlingly-named subcategory of ex-ex-gays, once considered themselves ex-gay, but no longer do so. Hilariously, some of the Christians who support the ex-gay movement claim being gay is a choice, implying that they think gay people can just switch off their sexuality, and thus would make their therapy useless. The fact that this conversion "therapy" exists proves that they know sexuality isn't a choice, but they don't want to admit it.

Professional, ethical psychotherapists base actual psychotherapy on the condition of an engaged and willingly participating client, invested in therapy, seeking a positive and chosen goal, in what they perceive to be their own interests. In reparative "therapy", most or all of these conditions are absent.

Background
So-called ‘conversion therapy’ is a range of dangerous and discredited practices that falsely claim to change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity or expression. A multitude of reparative therapy programs exist, which claim different origins for gender-variant behavior and employ different methods. Often children are sent by their parents to be "cured", though adults also participate voluntarily. Many of these "re-education" facilities amount to little more than non-fatal (at least not intentionally fatal) concentration camps. Transgender-specific reparative therapy is occasionally practiced on children who display cross-gender behaviors, often by misguided professional psychiatrists who seek to, for example, get young boys to "drop the chalupa Barbie." Such efforts to force young children into rigid gender roles are eerily similar to the practices of gay "conversion therapy". Many reparative therapy programs are deliberately located outside United States territory in order to avoid US jurisdiction and circumvent US laws prohibiting the practice of medicine without a license.

Against love
[Reparative therapists] start with the basis that they're thinking there's something wrong with someone being homosexual, and then they believe they can "fix" it. They often use a lot of pseudoscience, particularly sort-of "refried" Freudian theory, and then they mix it in with the Bible, and they try to come up with a 'cure'. [...] Churches in particular — and church organizations — sprung up, taking some of the Freud, mixing it with the bible, stirring it up in a blender and coming up with this crazy "smoothie of madness" that they would have us then drink, in order to "fix" us. It sucks to be LGBT sometimes. Being LGBT is difficult, for a lot of reasons, and it is certainly understandable that some LGBT people internalize this difficulty and are thus deeply unhappy with their sexual/gender identity. At least in theory, the principle of freedom of choice dictates that such individuals should have the right to seek whatever treatment or therapy they desire to arrive at a happier place. However, so-called "reparative therapy", in its current form, is manifestly unethical and deceptive because the people who promote and practice it profit from offering false hope to very vulnerable people, using outdated or incorrect data/pseudo-data to justify "treatments" that have not been demonstrated to be effective. Furthermore, when these "treatments" inevitably don't work, they risk reinforcing feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy in the "patient", putting them at risk of depression or even suicide. Finally, many reparative therapy programs exist not to improve the lives of the people they serve, but to prove a political point that, since non-heterosexual or non-cisgender behavior can ostensibly be changed, LGBT people should not be afforded civil rights, protection from discrimination, or recognition of their relationships.

Medical timeline
I gather from your letter that your son is a homosexual. I am most impressed by the fact that you do not mention this term yourself in your information about him. May I question you why you avoid it? Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation; it cannot be classified as an illness; we consider it to be a variation of the sexual function, produced by a certain arrest of sexual development. Many highly respectable individuals of ancient and modern times have been homosexuals, several of the greatest men among them. (Plato, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, etc). It is a great injustice to persecute homosexuality as a crime — and a cruelty, too. If you do not believe me, read the books of In the 1970s, the American Psychiatric Association reviewed its chief diagnostic tool, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). During this revision, the committee tasked with writing the manual eliminated homosexuality as a "mental disorder," primarily because they believed that it did not meet the standard of impaired functioning and in most cases did not hurt the self or others. Opponents of this decision seemed to think that it was based on pressure from the gay agenda that corrupted the APA. Thus, if the APA wasn't going to treat homosexuals as mentally ill, the Religious Right would.

Some "doctors" have equated reparative therapy with gender reassignment. The difference is that one issue is sexuality and that one is a gender issue; moreover, reparative therapy goes against one's natural instinct to be homosexual, while gender reassignment goes with one's natural instinct to be the opposite sex. One can just as easily set aside all these issues, and point out that gender reassignment patients need to go through psychological therapy designed to keep them in their assigned gender unless medically necessary (how ethical that is is a separate question). If reparative therapy did not badger and force patients into treatment at all costs, then the APA never would have classified it as unethical treatment.

Gender identity and sexuality are separate issues. For example, despite being assigned female at birth, a transgender man isn't simply a "super-lesbian" who wants to be a man &mdash; said person may well be attracted exclusively to men.

In 1997, the APA passed a resolution declaring reparative therapy to be quackery.

In 2012, an article was published which proposes an  Therefore it may, after all, be possible to alter one's sexual orientation (at least in theory) &mdash; but with the use of biological and medical methods like  instead of the highly questionable ones used by conversion therapists.

In 2015, Barack Obama came out against the practice, calling for its end in the United States.

Meet Richard Cohen
He's almost as unbelievable as a Yeti. By all accounts, (1952-) (no relation to the increasingly-cranky columnist) would seem like a typical straight man; he has a wife and kids, and seems like an average everyday fellow. However, he is probably the most prolific "ex-gay" out there, and is a (self-proclaimed) "Certified Sexual Reorientation Coach". Although every major counseling organization has banned him (including other "ex-gay" groups), Cohen is probably the most prolific of them, and the most crazy. His basic theory is that gay people did not feel proper attachment to their parent of the opposite gender (or the same gender; actually, it seems that Cohen hasn't really thought this whole thing out), and are thus reaching out to people of their own gender in order to find that missing parental love. Despite not doing any real research into this matter, he manages to get on TV claiming to have found the "cure" for something which is not classified as a disease (except by certain sorts of people).

Techniques
There are different methods for each practitioner, and I went through the gamut. I spent 17 years and over $30,000 on three continents consuming these pseudosciences, so I can tell you about a bunch of them. No two agree with each other, which is so common when you're dealing with pseudoscience, where they don't agree with each other often. Sometimes they use the Twelve step program, which has been somewhat effective with some alcoholics. They use a lot of the Bible; reading the Bible, memorizing the Bible — thinking that by "ingesting" God's word, it somehow "dislodges" evil, gay feelings. Some get really kind of extreme in that they have these extreme views; they think that being gay is because you're demon-possessed by spirits of homosexuality? So they submit you to an exorcism of sorts, to try to take out those gay demons. The techniques that reparative therapists use are quite varied, but have one thing in common: they do not work.

Aversion therapy
Your current conditioned reflex is when you see the same sex you feel love. Now I want you to feel scared. Remember the time you threw up after eating your favorite food and then never ever wanted to have that food again, even if that food didn't cause your vomiting? That's aversion therapy (see also vomit therapy). The way reparative therapists do it is to show you some hot gay porn, then make you drink This might work, but it doesn't really "change" things; it just prevents behaviors, and in the end, all it may do is make you not want to watch gay porn. This also happened in A Clockwork Orange, and we all know how that worked out. For a particularly disturbing demonstration of what this entails, watch the episode "I Am Anne Frank" of American Horror Story: Asylum.

Hugging
This one happens to be a Richard Cohen special. Remember, his theory is that gay men did not get the proper attachment from their dad; in order to treat this, Cohen himself will hug his patient, while the patient pretends to be a little boy and Cohen pretends to be his father. This is absolutely not an expression of repressed urges on Cohen's part, since he is not gay, and any gay feelings he might have are properly treated (see Hit Pillows below).

Gender reinforcement
This is a slightly more "mainstream" form of reparative therapy, wherein gay men and women are forced to enact stereotypical gender roles. So lesbians will be discouraged from sports and similar activities, and instead be taught to sew, do makeup, hold babies (since all women want babies, after all, and sex is only for the creation of babies), and do other girly things. Gay men will be taught to act "macho" and do macho things (no, not like The Village People!), such as playing sports (since no gay men ever play sports) or building things (because only straight women-loving people work on construction sites).

Hit pillows
This is another Richard Cohen special. Cohen does sometimes get gay feelings, and so he has to deal with them in a mature and adult manner. Thus, when he feels gay, he will take a baseball bat or tennis racket and smash it against a pillow, while screaming things like "Mom, why did you do that to me?!"

Hang around with horses
Raymond Bell from the oh-so-legitimate sounding Cowboy Church of Virginia believes "Equine Assisted Psychotherapy" can help turn gay people straight. Yeah. While the aim is harmful, the treatment here is relatively harmless compared to the other therapies here, and can even provide benefits, such as emotional support from an animal that doesn't pass judgement on your orientation.

Electric shocks to the genitals and sniffing feces
In Texas, reparative therapy can consist of electric shocks to the genitals and sniffing from a bottle of actual human shit. It so obviously works, right?

Mutual masturbation
Vatican adviser and anti-gay therapist Tony Anatrella has been accused of doing mutual masturbation with gay priests and semenarians seminarians in an effort to get sexual satisfaction to cure them of gay tendencies. Anatrella also had access to novice monks.

Treatments for transgender people
Reparative therapy techniques have also been tried on people with variant gender identity, not just sexual orientation. Anti-transgender therapists generally use the following techniques:


 * Explicitly saying "You're a man!" or "You're a woman!" until the cows come home
 * Subtly trying to talk people out of transitioning by scaring them (i.e., "You'll look like an ugly man in a dress!" for trans women, "You'll be bald and no one will date you!" for trans men)
 * Forcing people to conform to the gender roles of their assigned gender, popularized by therapist Ken Zucker
 * Promising hormones at first, but never giving them even after years (referred to as "Gatekeeping")
 * Making a person "accept their biological sex" while ignoring the biology of transgender identity
 * Attempting to use religion as a cure
 * Requiring that other conditions, such as depression, be treated first, without realizing that gender dysphoria can cause those conditions, not the other way around.
 * Gender exploratory therapy that somehow "explores" underlying issues
 * Making a person believe that their transness is a result of internalized misogyny, homophobia, trauma, and autism
 * In case they already transitioned, force them to detransition to try out alternative treatments for gender dysphoria. This is extremely popular among TERFs.

Trans teenager Leelah Alcorn was forced into reparative therapy for being transgender. Her parents also pulled her out of school and cut her off from social media in attempt to "cure" her. On December 28, 2014, Alcorn committed suicide. A proposed ban on conversion therapy in the US was nicknamed "Leelah's Law."

The impact of "treatment"
Conversion therapy causes serious harms. In the short-term, queer youth who go through conversion therapy are being cheated of the opportunity to gain self-confidence and self-esteem, to get support from family members and other adults, and to have normal adolescent developmental experiences around friendship, dating, and other social experiences. In the long-term, the negative health consequences of being subjected to conversion therapy are extremely serious and can include substance abuse, dropping out of school, HIV infection, depression, and suicide attempts.

"TC" was first subjected to conversion therapy in 2012 (at age 15), as a result of his parents discovering that he was gay.

To make matters worse, the "therapy" sessions (consisting of two "components") took place at the creepiest venue imaginable — the basement of a local church, always after school hours:

The above summarized sessions would take place every weekday, with shock therapy treatments lasting for approximately an hour (!) and aversion therapy lasting for three hours. Per day, every day!

In other words, these poor kids were facing the equivalent of daily interrogations by the Viet Cong. At age 15. By people they trusted. For the crime of being gay.

Unsurprisingly, TC relates how several tragic suicides resulted from "treatment" among the minors involved in his program (as corroborated by statistics on gay teen suicide ):

Famous "ex-gays"
This is broken down into two categories, those whom have "relapsed" and those who have not. The relapsed are sometimes referred to as "ex-ex-gays".

Relapsed

 * Michael Bussee (co-founder of Exodus International, one of the largest ex-gay groups; has since been a major critic of such groups and had a relationship with the other co-founder, Gary Cooper)
 * Michael Johnston (founded the now-defunct ex-gay movement called Kerusso Ministries, contacted gay men online and attended gay parties where he had un-safe sex and "forgot" to tell his partners that he had HIV.  )
 * McKrae Game, conversion therapy promoter and founder of Hope for Wholeness, has repudiated the therapy, "Conversion therapy is not just a lie, but it’s very harmful. Because it’s false advertising."
 * Mordechai Levovitz, an Orthodox Jew who works with other victims of reparative therapy.
 * (1963-) (after being "cured" in 2000, went to a DC gay club to celebrate this fact with other gays. In 2013, he announced he had accepted himself, was divorcing his ex-lesbian wife, and apologised for promoting reparative therapy. )

Not (publicly) relapsed (yet)
( But then again, we are not excluding the possibility of a later relapse for any of them unless they die "straight".)
 * is a former LGBT rights activist who converted to Christianity.
 * is the founder of Genesis Counseling in Tustin, California.
 * is a former LGBT rights activist.
 * is a singer-songwriter of contemporary Christian music.
 * is an Italian rock singer-songwriter

Laws violated
People have tried all kinds of things because none them really work. The people who offer these kind of treatments often are not licensed. They’re not bound by any state regulatory bodies for the kind of work they do. In theory, reparative therapy camps, even those outside of American jurisdiction, could be sued for torts committed against American citizens. First, it is a well-settled concept of jurisdiction that where a facility avails itself of the United States market, it can potentially (i.e., with a skilled lawyer) be sued in the United States. The basic touchstone of jurisdiction is foreseeability and fairness, and where a camp's population is 100% American citizens, surely it ought to be "on notice" of being covered by American laws. Venue would likely be proper in America following a forum non conveniens motion. From an American venue, a vast sum of torts &mdash; intentional infliction of emotional distress, false imprisonment, battery, tortious negligence, and likely statutory crimes &mdash; could be levied against the camp, but, more importantly, an effective public relations campaign could be fought.

A cursory Lexis search shows that no litigation has yet erupted around the abuses occurring at reparative therapy camps, except the criminal prosecution in California of one member of Casa by the Sea (a camp in Ensenada, Mexico), and a reporter investigating the same suing them for defamation and interference with contractual relationship with his publisher: apparently, Casa by the Sea does not like people knowing what's going on there.

In late 2012, California passed a law (SB1172) banning "gay repair" therapy on minors, followed by New Jersey in August 2013. Sadly, the bills only apply to licensed therapists, so Good Christian Parents can still send their kids to whackjob "clerical counsellors" to try and beat torture pray the gay away; such a bill would probably face constitutional challenges on "religious freedom" grounds. On the other hand, also in New Jersey, a jury found that a "reparative therapy" camp had committed consumer fraud against adult LGBT Jews who tried to go through with their bullshit and then sued when it didn't work; it is likely that this theory will hold up legally (although whether a jury will buy it is another matter) in most states, as consumer protection laws are largely similar across the country. Debora Juarez, a Native American woman on Seattle's City Council, likened reparative therapy to the torture practiced in 19th- and 20th-century boarding schools to coerce Native children into renouncing their tribal heritage.

Currently, conversion therapy on minors is banned in 21 US states, including the state of Colorado, Washington, and even Utah of all places. Conversion therapy is also illegal in DC (which is notable since its conversion therapy ban also applies to adults) and Puerto Rico, as well as a number of local jurisdictions mostly scattered across Pennsylvania, Michigan, Ohio, and Florida. Conversion therapy was also banned nationwide in Canada in 2022, with a number of provinces and cities having banned it before then. Additionally, a number of South American countries have banned the practice, including Ecuador, Brazil, Argentina, and Uruguay, as well as a few European countries such as Malta and Germany. Other countries that ban conversion therapy include Taiwan and New Zealand.