User:Men's Rights EXTREMIST/Who benefits from feminism?

The conventional wisdom is that the beneficiaries of feminism are strong women who would otherwise be held back from reaching their full potential; and that the people who suffer because of feminism are misogynistic assholes who want to abuse women. Let's look at the true picture.

Abusive alpha men
Abusive alpha men will always have tons of attractive young women who flock to them. Even when they're in prison, they still have women writing to them and sending them money. The feminist-inspired laws, such as restraining orders, that attempt to curtail these guys' behavior don't actually have much effect because they can always just move on to another woman, and a lot of the women who get restraining orders against these guys end up later coming back to them anyway, whether he's legally allowed to be with her or not.

No-fault divorce benefits these men because when they cheat on their wife, or beat her, she can leave the marriage easily and he can then replace her with a fresh new woman to victimize. If it were harder to get out of a marriage, then men who abuse their wives would have to deal with the consequences (e.g. looking at a woman with a beat-up face for the next several decades).

If, on the other hand, severe abuse were considered a grounds for divorce, and it were possible to prove the abuse, then women could clean their abuser's clock a lot more thoroughly than they can under a no-fault divorce system that regards no one as being to blame for a marriage's breakup, and therefore treats them relatively equitably financially.

Weak women seeking someone to validate their delusions
There are a lot of women who marry a guy and then turn out to be a total deadbeat, because their mental health problems and laziness keep them from accomplishing anything. Not only aren't they fit for the career world (they call in sick way too often to last long there, and they can't get through college because they drop out in the middle of the semester), they aren't even fit to serve their husband in the kitchen or the bedroom. There are a lot of women who use a feigned headache as an occasional excuse when they're just not feeling like putting in effort to please their husbands, but these women take it to a whole new level, using their fake illnesses on a daily basis to get out of just about everything.

Then when their husband gets annoyed at this behavior, they cry "abuse," get the legal system involved, and use the documentation (police reports, restraining orders, etc.) to get everyone to believe they really were abused. They can then use the "trauma" from this abuse as an excuse for why they can't accomplish anything for the rest of their lives, and live on child support and government handouts forever without anyone criticizing them for it.

Women who would actually be willing to put in the effort to have a successful marriage
There are still a few women left who have the skills to please a man and who recognize that if they marry a good man, they will get out of marriage what they put into it. Good women have no way of assuring a man that they aren't going to treat them terribly in a marriage and then run off with the kids and half their stuff. Prenuptial agreements, at best, only limit the damage from divorce. The emotional harm (both to the dumped guy and to the kids) may be irreparable.

Good guys' being reluctant to marry leads to a lot of good women having to settle for worse guys, or having less fulfilling relationships of casual sex rather than committed relationships.

Alphas and greater betas who would've actually made good husband material
Alphas get plenty of sex under the current system, but sex is all they're getting. Eventually, they're going to want to settle down, but many won't feel it's safe to put their trust in a woman who could easily betray them.

Women who are attracted to alpha men
Feminist-inspired culture teaches men that it's okay (and maybe even preferable) to be beta, and therefore there are more beta-acting men out there than there otherwise would be. Women who are attracted to alpha-acting guys (which is perhaps the majority of the population of younger women, when you look at the kind of guys they actually are willing to sleep with, as opposed to what they may say is the kind of guy they're attracted to) therefore have fewer alpha-acting guys available to them.

Beta men who verge on omega
Beta men who verge on omega can barely get any woman at all, and therefore are in a perfect position to be sought out by and mistreated by mentally unstable women. As soon as they encounter any woman who is willing to sleep with them, they think they've found the holy grail. These guys are often naive about such women, won't understand the driving forces behind the unhealthy relationship dynamics that develop, and will ultimately be left not knowing what hit them. As mentioned above, many of these women will cry "abuse" and be believed by everyone who hears the story, and these guys are in for a world of hurt when that happens.

Kids
Kids in many cases don't get to grow up with both their parents; no-fault divorce encourages parents to behave recklessly toward each other in their relationship, knowing that if the relationship fails, they can dissolve the marriage easily. People argue that it's better for parents to split if they are arguing constantly; but what is making them argue constantly? Could it be that they don't have to fear living with the consequences of trashing their relationship, since they can just give up on it and walk away?

Boys, instead of having a father to teach them how to be a man, get to hang around their mother who is probably sleeping half the day, and watching TV the rest of the time, when she isn't slutting it up with countless random guys while collecting her child support and welfare checks.

Feminism tends to support handing over custody of kids to mentally unstable women who cry "abuse." This is mentioned multiple times in this essay because it's a big and often-overlooked problem. A single dad would often be a more emotionally stable parent, and produce better outcomes for his kids, than a single mom who left her husband because she is disloyal or can't handle the emotional ups and downs of a relationship. If she has the kinds of bad qualities that would cause a marriage to break up, she may also be a shitty parent as well.