Thread:User talk:WaitingforGodot/BDSM and rape/reply (5)

I guess that's my problem. I do "victim blame" a bit in this context. Not cause i think women and men should "get over it", nor cause i think that they should not read things they want to read, but more because there is this view now, that society should be aware that what they write is or could be "triggers" to someone.

But I'm not kidding when I say most people in group talk about the dumbest things flashing them back. A room with a bed they "remember". A restaurant with asian cooking. Having sex with someone and finding yourself in a position that you've done together 100 times, but this one time makes you say "get off me". The human mind is really unpredictable. By the time you are able to read about and discuss rape, odds are, the word "rape" isn't going to do it.

But I see if you are going to write a really emotional, or first person point of view; if you are writing fiction that goes deep in to description; why it would be worth saying "this is more than your average discussion".