Thread:User talk:Nebuchadnezzar/Uber men! gruph gruph grunt!/reply (14)

Sadly, i think things really do change once kids (and the romance of 'oh, they new baby' wears off) sets in. But what's interesting (and maybe more than likely true) about the article nebby linked to, is that women in a sense, are victims of their own views. Not only "mom did it, so it's what I have to do", but this idea that they will do it better/faster/"right" than men, cause we are taught to believe that. Self fulling kind of thing. "men suck at laundry. Hubby did laundry once, messed it up, instead of teaching him, I just took it over".

In my own house, i see myself in that exact place. how many times I've said "you didn't do X when you washed the dishes (did the laundry, vaccumed) and now it's like totally fucked up and i will never ever get it back, so i'll just do it". if i would jsut accept that he does it differently (yes, less "perfect" but he's not obsessed with cleaning the way women are rasied to be) i'd get the help i want.

Interesting part i never considered: my roll in the problem.