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“”The most unnatural of all the sexual perversions.
Abstinence is the practice of refraining (voluntarily or involuntarily) from having sexual relations with other people. In stricter cases, abstinence also refers to not even masturbating. It should not be confused with celibacy, which is abstinence that is intentionally pursued for spiritual, philosophical or moral motivations.
When people attempting abstinence as birth control find their sex drive is too strong, this can result in unprotected sex or masturbation, especially if they put themselves in situations in which the temptation is likely to be strong. Despite its possible effectiveness, abstinence is highly unpopular in the United States and has been so since at least the 1940s. 
Evangelicals like to say that abstinence is one hundred percent effective at preventing pregnancy. But when talking about birth control, we distinguish between perfect-use failure rates and typical-use failure rates.[note 1] The former assumes the method is used correctly, while the latter is the actual rate at which women get pregnant while using the method. Thus, if a hundred women use male latex condoms, for example, eighteen will be pregnant within a year on average, while if they all use it perfectly, two will be pregnant. Typical-use failure rates are important, because human error is a thing. If abstinence is a birth control method, the same standard should apply; its effectiveness should be judged on how many women using it become pregnant. No data is available on this, but it happens often enough that any adult with non-zero life experience can see clearly that the typical-use failure rate for abstinence is a good deal higher than zero.
These programs are so-called "sexual education" courses for public schools which either emphasize abstinence in preference to proven sex education techniques, or in "abstinence only" programs, teach nothing else. It goes without saying that all studies show abstinence only programs are less effective than actual information on birth control and sexual health.
Abstinence and western religions
Western religions, thriving on control and demonization of sexuality in general, often "require" abstinence of their unmarried followers - especially those followers with a womb. Women were traditionally expected to go into the marriage bed a virgin. Even today, when sex out of wedlock is "okay", the amount of sex a woman has had prior to her wedding day is often considered in defining her character. "Good girls don't", don'cha know.
As part of the "Culture War", this obsession with abstinence has not only resulted in abstinence based sex-ed programs, but in such unique events as "father-daughter Abstinence balls", abstinence clubs in schools, and virginity pledges. It's not as if none of them ever follow through, but really... you'd think people would eventually realize that trying to keep teenagers from having sex is a completely
syphilic Sisyphean task.[citation NOT needed]
Other reasons for abstinence
A small but significant number of people quite voluntarily choose abstinence for any number of reasons. The autistic woman Temple Grandin, who has both an inability to emotionally connect with other people and a severe sensory processing disorder, chose to forgo sex and romance of any kind. Asexual people may or may not decide to engage in abstinence, or at the very least avoid sex not intended for reproduction, although they may wish to engage in some kind of romance. And of course, while perhaps unfortunate, people who have suffered some sort of psychological or emotional trauma may decide that the mental and/or physical pain associated with sex overrides any pleasure they might otherwise get out of it.
There is some suggestion in scientific literature that prolonged abstinence might lead to sexual repression which in turn risks causing aggression and violence as well as preoccupation with sex. The argument is that people who struggle to suppress their own sex drives become preoccupied with sex. This is ironic, considering that such people within religious organizations like the Catholic Church often seek to impose abstinence onto other people.
- Measured as the average number of pregnancies per year per 100 women using the method.
- Or, alternatively, a description of the withdrawal symptoms following a cessation of drug abuse/consumption, in which case the question of not having sex is probably a rather minor matter.
- Most Americans have had premarital sex, study finds
- Sexual Repression: The Malady That Considers Itself the Remedy