Adultery

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Adultery is what adults do with adults other than their spouses (spice?) when they have sex with people they haven't agreed that it is ok to have it with.

It is also a truism that: infants do not have anywhere near as much fun in infancy as adults do in adultery.[1]

But seriously, it's not nice to cheat, it hurts your spouse.[2]

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[edit] Implication of deceit

The term "adultery" is somewhat loaded. There are two possible definitions of adultery;

  1. The traditional definition is "sexual intercourse with anyone who is not your spouse(s)" (thus making all premarital sex, regardless of the genders of those involved, adultery).
  2. As people today use the word "adultery", they tend to equate it with the word "cheating" -- that is, Person A, who is married to Person B, has sex with person C (who may or may not be married) without the consent of B. While all cheating is be adultery, not all extramarital sex is cheating — examples would include "swingers" who regularly have sex with other people, such as in "wife swapping" or a "keys party." While two married couples who swap partners might be technically committing adultery, it can't be argued that they are cheating since they all know about each others' "affairs" and there is no deception against anyone.

Make sure to figure out which definition a person is using when having an argument about it.

[edit] Adultery and the law

Most ancient societies had laws proscribing adultery, since it can be major source of division and conflict within communities (not to mention a complication for inheritance laws that are based on male descent), and was often punished by the death penalty. The Torah law of the Old Testament is an example of this. Jesus Christ is reported to have saved an adultress from being stoned to death ("let he who is without sin cast the first stone"), although some extreme conservatives, not being happy with the concept of forgiveness or the anti-death penalty stance of the story, dispute the validity of this incident.[3]

The definition of Adultery used in the Old Testament was narrower than how the term is used today. In the Old Testament, a sexual act was considered adultery only if it involved a married woman having sex with a man who wasn't her husband. A married man having sex with an unmarried woman didn't qualify as adultery. This was because a wife was considered the property of her husband, not the other way around. (King Solomon reportedly had 700 wives and 400 concubines, and the Old Testament treated him as one of the wisest men who every lived.)

Most modern societies have removed laws against adultery, regarding it as a personal issue rather than a societal one, although it is often grounds for a divorce or marriage annulment. However, adultery is still a criminal offense in some nations, largely Muslim ones, such as Iran and Saudi Arabia, with a harsh interpretation of Sharia law. These societies use the first definition of adultery above, so any sexual activity by an unmarried couple could be classed as adultery.

In 2002, a Nigerian woman named Amina Lawal Kurami was convicted of adultery when she became pregnant out of wedlock, some time after being divorced from her husband. She was sentenced to death by stoning, but the sentence was later overturned, not because it would be barbaric, but because Sharia law recognises the concept of "extended pregnancy", asserting that a woman's gestation can last up to five years. Thus, the verdict of the appeal was that she could hypothetically have been carrying the child of her estranged husband rather than having committed adultery.[4]

Of non-Islamic nations, South Korea still has laws against adultery, with a two-year prison stint being the maximum sentence,[5] and some of the united states (Michigan, Maryland, Pennsylvania) still nominally have adultery laws, although prosecutions are rarely made.

[edit] Christians and adultery

Adultery is listed in the Big Ten. Jesus mentions it over twenty times in the New Testament. He even talks about "adultery of the mind."

5:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.[6] and some Christians interpret that as meaning that a man can’t even look at his own wife that way.[7]

Jesus mentions homosexuality zero times. Yet, the single greatest threat to fundamentalist marriages is apparently homosexuality, not adultery.

[edit] Self proclaimed conservative Christians who have committed adultery

[edit] See also

[edit] Footnotes

  1. Says who? OK, me, I'd agree, but still. I loved my infancy as much as my (not quite, since never married) adultery.
  2. Martin Mull in a song of more-or-less the same name.
  3. See Andrew Schlafly's "essay" on the subject here.
  4. See the Wikipedia article on Amina Lawal.
  5. In 2008, Korean actress Ok So-ri was convicted of adultery, and given a suspended sentence.[1]
  6. http://skepticsannotatedbible.com/mt/5.html#28
  7. http://www.ewtn.com/library/papaldoc/jp2tb42.htm
  8. http://www.religionnewsblog.com/4538
  9. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_g1epc/is_bio/ai_2419200062
  10. http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0507/14/lkl.01.html
  11. http://www.denverpost.com/ci_4817067
  12. http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/1/story.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10330188
  13. http://www.salon.com/opinion/greenwald/2007/08/28/craig/,
  14. http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/features/2006/0607.benen.html
  15. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jimmy_Swaggart#Exposed
  16. http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/features/2006/0607.benen.html
  17. http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2006/11/05/ap/national/mainD8L72NT80.shtml
  18. http://glenngreenwald.blogspot.com/2006/10/mark-foley-and-unmasked-republican.html
  19. http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/features/2006/0607.benen.html
  20. http://www.moveleft.com/moveleft_essay_2005_01_22_lust_bill_oreilly_told_his_producer_she_has_sspectacular_boobs.asp
  21. http://www.pensitoreview.com/ronald-reagan/
  22. A Vast Right-Wing Hypocrisy - Vanity Fair, Feb 2008
  23. http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9D0CE5DA1E3BF936A25753C1A967958260
  24. http://blog.nola.com/updates/2007/07/former_prostitute_confirms_vit.html
  25. http://www.worldmag.com/2012/10/king_s_crisis
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