|Someone is wrong on|
“”Person A: [bigoted statement]
Person B: The fuck?
Person C: Now, now, let's have civility.
Dear C: You came in one statement too late.
The tone argument (also tone policing) is a logical fallacy that occurs when an argument is dismissed or accepted on its presentation: typically perceived crassness, hysteria or anger. Tone arguments are generally used by tone trolls (esp. concern trolls) in order to derail or silence opponents lower on the privilege ladder, as a method of positioning oneself as a Very Serious Person.
P1: X asserted Y is true with bad tone.
P2: Something asserted with bad tone may as well be false.
C1: Y may as well be false.
- Dismissing or refusing to address an objective argument (e.g. statistical, scientific) for spurious reasons. The true objection is not to the tone.
- A reverse tone troll can be used to compare you, the "good" objector, to strawman "bad" objectors. At least you're not like those uppity objectors.
- A "call for civility". A useful honesty test of a call for civility is whether the person calling for "civility" in the current dispute has greater power on the relevant axes than the person they're calling "uncivil". In this context, calling for "civility" is a dominance move. Note that pretty much any objection is susceptible to being tagged "uncivil".
- "Shrill" or "militant": objecting sufficiently loudly that anyone actually notices, no matter the actual tone or style of the objection.
- Objection to a particular word in the argument to dismiss the argument and speaker henceforth.
- Objection to, or dismissal of, grammar or dialect as response to a substantive point.
 Appeal to MLK
Appeal to Martin Luther King is when an activist is criticized for their perceived failure to conform to the fictionalized perfection of some saintly nonviolent activist figure. Most commonly Martin Luther King Jr, but occasionally also Mahatma Gandhi or Cesar Chavez.
|I have almost reached the regrettable conclusion that the Negro's great stumbling block in his stride toward freedom is not the White Citizen's Counciler or the Ku Klux Klanner, but the white moderate, who is more devoted to "order" than to justice; who prefers a negative peace which is the absence of tension to a positive peace which is the presence of justice; who constantly says: "I agree with you in the goal you seek, but I cannot agree with your methods of direct action"; who paternalistically believes he can set the timetable for another man's freedom; who lives by a mythical concept of time and who constantly advises the Negro to wait for a "more convenient season."|
When people finally tell the tone troll to go away, it may accuse them of "kafkatrapping", a term coined by Eric S. Raymond, which means being so mean as not to bother explaining to an idiot why they're an idiot in simple enough terms for the idiot to want to understand.
Aside from the obvious exceptions (e.g. threats of death or violence), as a debating technique, it can hypothetically be employed honestly (in response to emotional appeal) — the tone argument is not always incorrect, you catch more flies with honey than vinegar — but it's not a very good argument because it falls to the style over substance fallacy. At best, it may be a way to point out rhetorical dishonesty in a formal debate, but at worst it is a way to erase experiences, emphasis, and other properties of a dialogue that were never actually up for debate.
You don't have to listen to someone and may find their tone offputting. Nobody wants an earful of an obnoxious person. In fact, most people simply do not tolerate obnoxious arguments — and will tend to think of any argument they disagree with as obnoxious — no matter how correct they are, which is why politicians go out of their way to avoid this effect. However, while being unhappy with someone's style may be valid, ignoring the content puts you in danger of being seriously incorrect about the world.
 How to discuss tone
The phrase "tone trolling" itself can be (and has been) used to excuse verbally abusing one's opponents, so be careful who you accuse of doing it. Two common responses when it's deployed on you:
- First, make sure that you are participating in an actual rhetorical debate that both you and your opponent have consented to. Then, make sure that you either have your arguments together or the opponent is not debating in good faith. Bonus points for both, since it can backfire if your own allies contradict you.
- Light the flamethrowers.
The first of these is probably more productive.
If you tread on someone's toes and they tell you to get off, then get off their toes. Don't tell them to "ask nicely".
Make sure you don't bring tone into any ongoing argument. It may be OK to discuss it as an aside.
 See also
- Tone argument (Geek Feminism wiki) — includes many, many examples of the argument's use on women
- Science, philosophy and religion: which best offers us the tools to understand the world around us? — in which David Colquhon points out that sweet reason didn't get homeopathy out of UK universities, it took long and loud public ridicule
- ↑ https://twitter.com/scalzi/status/502085062540939264
- ↑ http://www.africa.upenn.edu/Articles_Gen/Letter_Birmingham.html
- ↑ http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=2122
- ↑ Although apple cider vinegar is pretty good for catching fruit flies. Comparative tests with honey are just waiting for a science fair project.
- ↑ "Acclaimed sci-fi writer exposed as notorious Internet troll", DailyDot