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Lilith was, according to medieval Jewish folklore, the very first wife of Adam before Eve — much earlier on. Lilith is also a fairly common first/given name, and has been the name of numerous characters in works of fiction, such as Lilith Pleasant on The Sims 2.
She would have began as a demon from the traditions of Babylonia and other cultures in that region (Sumer, etc), a tradition where the demon stole babies at night that would end up percolating to early Judaism, and like Lucifer it's mentioned just once in the Bible (Isaiah 34:14), where depending of the translation, the demon appears among animals considered unclean, while in others as the Vulgate she would be identified with the Lamia, a child-eating monster half woman and half serpent in Greek mythology.
Said legends, that come from the Jewish folklore of the Middle Ages, narrate how after having been created by God she was not happy at all to basically be below Adam in the pecking order and would have preferred to be above him, so she basically said her True Name and flew away, God being pissed off and after deciding that every day one hundred of her children would die, He sent three angels to bring back her. They failed, but at least they were able to make her, also quite pissed to see so many of her offspring dying every day, leaving alone children who carried an amulet with the names of said angels:
“”After God created Adam, who was alone, He said, "It is not good for man to be alone." He then created a woman for Adam, from the earth, as He had created Adam himself, and called her Lilith. Adam and Lilith immediately began to fight. She said, "I will not lie below," and he said, "I will not lie beneath you, but only on top. For you are fit only to be in the bottom position, while I am to be the superior one." Lilith responded, "We are equal to each other inasmuch as we were both created from the earth." But they would not listen to one another. When Lilith saw this, she pronounced the Ineffable Name and flew away into the air.
Adam stood in prayer before his Creator: "Sovereign of the universe!" he said, "the woman you gave me has run away." At once, the Holy One, blessed be He, sent these three angels Senoy, Sansenoy, and Semangelof, to bring her back.
Said the Holy One to Adam, "If she agrees to come back, what is made is good. If not, she must permit one hundred of her children to die every day." The angels left God and pursued Lilith, whom they overtook in the midst of the sea, in the mighty waters wherein the Egyptians were destined to drown. They told her God's word, but she did not wish to return. The angels said, "We shall drown you in the sea."
"Leave me!' she said. "I was created only to cause sickness to infants. If the infant is male, I have dominion over him for eight days after his birth, and if female, for twenty days."When the angels heard Lilith's words, they insisted she go back. But she swore to them by the name of the living and eternal God: "Whenever I see you or your names or your forms in an amulet, I will have no power over that infant." She also agreed to have one hundred of her children die every day. Accordingly, every day one hundred demons perish, and for the same reason, we write the angels' names on the amulets of young children. When Lilith sees their names, she remembers her oath, and the child recovers.
Mother and queen of demons
Later traditions would elaborate more on this, claiming she married the archangel Samael (Satan, if you prefer so) being the mother of demons along other wives of him, all surrounded by a whole lot of basically demons (hosts, etc) with the marriage having been arranged by "Blind
Guardian Dragon", leaving him after the latter was castrated by God and looking for those men who have nocturnal emissions, explained as result of Lilith's lust.
Later on, she would come back to the Garden of Eden as the snake that would royally screw up things for everyone, even if God for all his omniscience seems not to have noticed she had both polymorphed into said animal and slipped onto said place.
Last but not least, to complicate things more, the "Treatise on the Left Emanation" claims there're two Liliths: one the treated here, and other lesser married to the demon Asmodeus, probably as less friendly as the former.
In modern times
Lilith has ended up in Wicca, more or less sanitized and sharing properties with goddesses of the epoch as Ishtar or Asherah, having been claimed she was in those places a presumably much more friendlier mother goddess of childbirth, children, women, and sexuality, who ended demonized as patriarchy rose [note 1]. Others claim that Lilith is a dark moon goddess like the Hindu Kali..
It also goes without saying how said backstory, at the very least the first part where she does not want to be Adam's sex toy, explains her popularity among some feminist circles. Also, while she does not appear at all in Christianism one has to wonder what would have happened with the consideration of women, had she popped up there, knowing what brought Eve's mess-up in the Garden of Eden for them.
In popular culture
Of course depending of whom you ask and/or your level of nerdiness, Lilith may now be too-many-to-list different things, more or less related to the character discussed above. Besides appearing in a lot of Heavy metal songs, most notably perhaps some by "Cradle of Filth", she (or rather something named like her) appears in "Neon Genesis Evangelion" as mankind's progenitor, impaled by the Lance of Longinus. Among many, many, other places, she also pops up in the "Darksiders" franchise as a demon queen, and of course in Dungeons & Dragons as a devil queen ruling as consort one of the Nine Hells of Baator. There is also her appearance in The Binding of Isaac: Afterbirth as a playable character, who is not only blindfolded and can only fire via her Incubus companion, but also comes with the delightful gimmick of becoming increasingly more pregnant as she takes damage, eventually giving birth to a small demon follower who will aid her.
- She at least was not written out and almost forgotten unlike the already mentioned Asherah
- Kramer, S. N. Gilgamesh and the Huluppu-Tree: A Reconstructed Sumerian Text. Assyriological Studies 10. Chicago. 1938
- Humm, Alan. Lilith in the Alphabet of Ben Sira
- Patai p. 244
- Humm, Alan. Lilith, Samael, & Blind Dragon
- RLilith in Jewish Mysticism: Treatise on the Left Emanation
- |title=Excerpts from Lilith-The first Eve
- R. Buckland
- Lilith and the modern Western world
- The Legend of Lilith