Talk:Non-binary gender

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What's the third gender?[edit]

It says that in trigender, they shift between "A third gender." What is it? This sounds a bit ridiculous to me. Any scientific evidence to support these people not being full of it? Parogar (talk) 08:11, 20 January 2015 (UTC)

Just about any of the third genders mentioned in the article could be options, really. 141.134.75.236 (talk) 08:54, 20 January 2015 (UTC)
Its existence if obvious once you realise that a lot of what we consider 'gender' is more about societal roles, expectations and behaviour than it ever was to do with biology. All it takes is a society where there's a stereotype of behaviour and identity that isn't the same as the local 'male' or 'female'. Queexchthonic murmurings 10:44, 20 January 2015 (UTC)
That's not true, though. Scientists believe gender is both societal and environmental, with no standing consensus on which plays the more prominent factor. If you're saying gender is societal, then you're speaking from a position not of science, but of personal, anecdotal observation. Parogar (talk) 14:15, 20 January 2015 (UTC)
How does something being 'both societal and environmental' stop something from being societal? If you like, just replace 'societal' with 'societal and environmental' in the above. Arguing against the possibility of a third gender requires a strong and unscientific appeal to biological determinism. Once the possibility is on the table, all you need to demonstrate its reality is to find an example, an abundance of which the article provides. Queexchthonic murmurings 19:54, 20 January 2015 (UTC)
Hey Parogar...there are several other options besides male and female LISTED IN THE ARTICLE that could be the third gender. Unless you want to confront the muxes, hijiras, bissus, two-spirits, and all the other non-binary folks on this planet and tell them that they are "just full of it". Asarelah (talk) 02:25, 21 January 2015 (UTC)
Furthermore, why is it so impossible that one's neurology can be intersex without one's body being intersex? Binary transsexuals have scientific acceptance as being the gender they identify as due to their neurology. Why are you skeptical the claim of non-binaries to having a different mental wiring? Asarelah (talk) 02:44, 21 January 2015 (UTC)
Indeed of the groups of people who you mentioned above I notice that in every single society in which they exist they are still gender roles for men and women. None of these societies view gender identity as fluid or as being binary but rather they view gender identity as being ternary, quaternary or quinary. Alsto003 (talk) 02:49, 21 January 2015 (UTC) Alex
Listing other (and only a very select few) societies that also believed in these things (like two spirits) doesn't really mean anything, nor does it constitute evidence of anything other than the fact that a few other cultures believed in it. For example: just about every culture since the dawn of mankind has believed in one God or another. Does this prove there must at least be one God? Parogar (talk) 04:49, 21 January 2015 (UTC)
No, but it proves the existence of religion. Identity -- any identity -- is a societal convention and not just a physical description. Consider nationality. Attempting to define it purely in terms of the place where you were born or the place where you live is inadequate. The reality is more complicated; it involves legal and societal issues and often does not have clear boundaries between one state and another. Ultimately, nationality means what people accept it to mean -- it's a cultural artefact. So it is with gender. They 'believe' they have a different gender, yes, but that (and also perhaps a wider acceptance of that identity in their culture) is all that's required for it to be real. That bar is met. The argument you're making is essentially trying to claim that the existence of passports isn't sufficient to prove the existence of nationality. Queexchthonic murmurings 14:07, 21 January 2015 (UTC)
^Very well put, Queex. Asarelah (talk) 17:00, 21 January 2015 (UTC)


Wait, time out[edit]

Are you saying these people can MORPH between genders? Like, boy for 15 minutes, girl for 15 minutes, boy again for 15 minutes? That's some crazy-ass shit. Parogar (talk) 08:12, 20 January 2015 (UTC)

You mean people who are genderfluid? They exist, yup. And no, they don't switch genders every 15 minutes. 141.134.75.236 (talk) 08:54, 20 January 2015 (UTC)
Bigender people are recognized by the American Psychological Association. And some two-spirits change gender presentation from day to day. Asarelah (talk) 02:25, 21 January 2015 (UTC)

Science?[edit]

... yeah I am probably applying way to much of XKCD 386 here, but... it gives me that warm and fuzzy feeling. So anonymous visiting me will ramble on a bit. So, uh the article says there is no current science as to why people behave the way they do (within this topic). I mean, either there is a physiological reason we have yet to discover (aberrant neurology, dna markers and so on), or else it we have to look what we already know about the human psyche and sociology for an explanation. I mean we already know of psychological illnesses that produce a strong need for attention like Munchausen Syndrome or maybe there are other borderline personality disorders at play that mess with someones perception of self. But this is "gayness is a mental sickness" territory, so I don't expect studies to be made very soon. Do I need to make disclaimer that I do not view homosexulality as a mental sickness? In fact, I couldn't care any less about what makes you happy in bed. Or maybe the idea that is all about being a special snowflake is not so far out as many people would like it to be. I also don't buy the analogy to nationality or religion. Me believing that there is one god doesn't make him/her/it real or my believe true by default. It only makes me a monotheist and unlike quantifiable differences like having XY or XX this doesn't (or better, it shouldn't) entitle me to special treatment. And here is the thing, I can change my nationality or religion, even skin color is possible (if you are Micheal Jackson). I could get a baptisement and henceforth call myself a christian. However I can not change my DNA to the degree (in the forseable future anyway) to make me a woman or something in between. Point is, to claim that gender is something that exists decoupled from your DNA is nonsense. Nothing exists in a vacuum and like we take the time into account when judging a work of art, we need to account for all variables, including sociological, psychological and physiological ones. In the end, I think we have to apply the scientific method.

Observation: People claim to be off different gender than the two known ones.

-> Hypothesis: There are indeed more than two genders perviously observed.

-> Null hypothesis: People are making shit up because they want to feel important.

-> Counternull hypothesis: People are suffering from an undiagnosed personality disorder.

For starters and people with communications degrees, having a number of poeple lining up saying "I feel like an indistinct human being" is not going to be sufficient proof. If we can't produce hard data like ct images or DNA markers that show the differences, we need to fall back on statistics, comparing responses to stimuli from the group we want to do science on to one that acts as the control group to which we compare the first. We could compare responses from people who identify as indeterminate to who identify with their biological gender and look if there are sufficient differences or similarities we could use to prove or refute the hypothesis. We can ask psychologists to examine those who take part in a study for personality disorders to proove or refute the counter null by comparing these results to the control group of identify with their biological gender. If neither hypothesis or counterhypothesis are proven to be true, it is prudent to go with the null hypothesis until a better hypothesis comes along that could give us a better explanation the observed phenomenon or wait until technology and research in other areas catches up.77.8.92.24 (talk) 02:55, 3 February 2015 (UTC)

First of all, your statement that gender is something that cannot be decoupled from DNA is staggeringly ignorant. The article contains a link describing the causes of transsexualism, and transsexualism IS MEDICALLY AND SCIENTIFICALLY RECOGNIZED. SCIENCE RECOGNIZES BINARY TRANSSEXUALS AS BEING THE GENDER THEY IDENTIFY AS. There are also intersex people in this world whose DNA doesn't match up to the genitals that they were born with. There are cisgender women who were born with vaginas who have XY chromosomes. Second of all, the "intersex neurological condition" hypothesis is just that: A HYPOTHESIS. The article clearly states that NOBODY knows why these people identify as they do. Your idea that these people have some kind of pathological personality disorder not only has no scientific precedent to back it up (unlike the intersex neurology hypothesis), it contributes to the stigmatization of non-binary people, and it is thus socially irresponsible. By the way, a psychological disorder is largely defined by whether or not it impairs ones ability to function and whether or not it causes one distress. The non-binary people from cultures where they are accepted are not viewed as being "sick" or "crazy" or "attention whores" and they are functioning, contributing members of their respective societies. By the way, we ARE ALLOWED to speculate about scientific explanations for unexplained phenomena on Rational Wiki. You want ultra-stringent standards and peer-reviewed papers? Go to regular Wikipedia. Asarelah (talk) 19:23, 3 February 2015 (UTC)
P.S. - The American Psychological Association recognizes bigender people as a subset of transgender people. And NOT as a personality disorder. Asarelah (talk) 19:27, 3 February 2015 (UTC)
Psychology is not reproducible (First results from psychology’s largest reproducibility test) therefore it's just woo. Since none of the alternative hypothesis (neurological, physiological) have substantial evidence, the null hypothesis (attention seeking) remains the most credible. The null hypothesis is supported by overwhelming evidence of chronic attention-seeking behaviour by these individuals (exaggerated dressing, parades, constant victimization, etc.). Things are usually what they seem (Is my son really gay or attention seeking?)145.64.134.245 (talk) 08:59, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Really, you cite Yahoo Answers! Hey, there's this guy down the pub wot reckons that these gays.... Doxys Midnight Runner (talk) 09:09, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Actualy the revealing bit is the question, not the answers (which I had already answered above). But never look beyond your navel. 145.64.134.245 (talk) 10:02, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
No, I'm questioning your assertion The null hypothesis is supported by overwhelming evidence of chronic attention-seeking behaviour by these individuals (exaggerated dressing, parades, constant victimization, etc.) and yet the only "evidence" you can provide of "chronic attention-seeking behaviour" is a Yahoo Answers page. Have you any real evidence that non binary gender has any correlation with attention seeking behaviour? Maybe you just don't see those who just want to be left alone to get on with their lives. Doxys Midnight Runner (talk) 10:25, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Attention-seeking behaviour is self-evident. Your counter argument is an appeal to "invisible proof". No, I don't see those who just want to be left alone. Do you see them? Where? 145.64.134.245 (talk) 11:25, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
You can't just randomly place down a null hypothesis that makes a claim about the intentions of people. Narky SawtoothNarky.png (Nyarnyar~) 10:22, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
It's based on observations, therefore plausible. Give me a better one with observations to match. 145.64.134.245 (talk) 11:25, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
You don't seem to understand what a null hypothesis is supposed to be. Learn to science. Queexchthonic murmurings 11:30, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
If you can't improve on mine then shut the fuck up. 145.64.134.245 (talk) 11:56, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
H0: There is no physiological cause for those who identify as non-binary.
That took all of 2 seconds, you dipshit. Queexchthonic murmurings 12:02, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Good science is the best comeback to bad science. (I don't agree with the abrasive comment, though, but that's a moral difference.) Narky SawtoothNarky.png (Nyarnyar~) 12:14, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
A null hypothesis must as a minimum explain the observations. Your H0 doesn't, therefore it's not a hypothesis. Take your time, gonzo. Think instead of compulsively posting. 145.64.134.245 (talk) 12:26, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
the null hypothesis refers to a general statement or default position that there is no relationship between two measured phenomena
Queex's H0 does exactly that. Your null hypothesis seems to be "my bigotry is correct" which is slightly different. Doxys Midnight Runner (talk) 12:35, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
145, The null hypothesis might as well be "Hitler did nothing wrong" if that's your justification. It is justified in the same manner as yours. Narky SawtoothNarky.png (Nyarnyar~) 12:51, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Why did it take you so long? Godwin's_Law (reductio ad Hitlerum). The dork of every debate inevitably surfaces. 145.64.134.245 (talk) 13:01, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
I already bet someone that you would take that as such. Little problem: I didn't compare you - or anyone - to Hitler and/or Nazis. It was a different "reductio ad whateverum". Narky SawtoothNarky.png (Nyarnyar~) 13:13, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
"A null hypothesis must as a minimum explain the observations". No, it doesn't. It provides a framework with minimal assumptions within which the likelihood of the observations are assessed. Then that null hypothesis is either accepted or rejected. That's why I said you don't understand hypothesis testing - you seem to think that observations have anything to do with H0. They don't. They shouldn't. They might be why you are doing a test, but that's the full extent of the interaction. You don't seem to even have a middle-school grasp of science, goober. Queexchthonic murmurings 13:37, 5 June 2015 (UTC)
Considering I know people who identify non-binary but keep it a secret, present as cisgender, and only talk about it with trusted friends, I'm going to call bullshit on this "attention-seeking" crap. I also have no idea how "constant victimization" is an attention-seeking behavior. People mistreat non-binary individuals. That is a fact. Finally, are you going to accuse the people in the cultures in which non-binary genders are considered normal to be "attention whores"? Are you going to actually have the balls to tell Native Americans, who honor Two-Spirits as sacred, that their holy institution that pre-dated colonization and was subject to several efforts to stamp it out by white people is just a lot of "attention seeking"? By the way, as for "exaggerated dress" and behavior, I think you're thinking of drag queens, who are predominantly cisgender men and not non-binary people. Asarelah (talk) 16:07, 5 August 2015 (UTC)

Some thoughts about third genders[edit]

Not my intention to deny the possibility of other than the two typical genders existing, but reading the examples on this article I couldn't avoid thinking that most of those "third genders" exist in traditional cultures with strongly enforced gender roles, and wouldn't make much sense in a more modern society. For example, without considering myself any other thing than a cisgender male, I do a series of activities (like cooking or changing diapers) that years ago would have marked me as effeminate or not enough masculine. As society liberalizes individuals can feel attracted to people of either sex, dress or act in androgynous ways, and enjoy activities traditionally reserved to the opposite sex without being identified as other than their chosen gender, male or female. But in a society with extremely strict gender roles, simply being a girl who likes sports may mark you as someone who obviously is not a "man" but neither fits in a proper "woman" role. I wonder how many of those historical "third gender" people would be, if put in a modern society, simply trans women, or gay men or even women who wanted to go to college or have economic independence (the Balkan "sworn virgins" seems like it could be this in a lot of the cases) and were forced into the third gender identity by a society who did not want their traditional gender roles contaminated by deviations of the norm. So maybe in the future as gender roles will dilute more and more is going to be less meaningful talking about non-binary genders? 46.24.106.218 (talk) 02:09, 26 March 2015 (UTC)

Sure, but doesn't that apply to genders in general? 141.134.75.236 (talk) 04:52, 26 March 2015 (UTC)


Is that all non-binary is to everyone? Gender roles? At least with transsexuals there is physical dysphoria. Shouldn't we be fighting gender roles? So, if a woman isn't a stereotype, she's nonbinary? Wouldn't it be much easier if we just went by sex, and not gender, if that's the case? It's counterproductive. What's wrong with, "If you have a penis, you're male, and if you have a vagina, you're female, and if you have any dysphoria about this, you're trans"? Trans is completely legitimate, but non-binary? Why can't people express themselves any way they choose, without all of this BS? By the way, I've always felt similar to non-binary, though it's difficult to explain. I HATE gender roles though. I see identity (the way I recognize myself and my body) as different from roles and preferences. I'm very egalitarian, and I know that there are butches and tomboys and women who just aren't stereotypes, though still cis. What is non-binary? Explain it in a way that is separate from social roles. My identity is Other and I use the "they" pronoun. It just feels right. But I don't want to be setting things back for men and women and equality. I don't want to escape from my biological sex, when I could be truly trying to make the world better by championing freedom. I don't want to distance myself if I could be representing my biological sex through my achievements. And yet there is a weird feeling about my identity. It's like I know I am Other-gendered, regardless of roles or the toys I played with growing up or whatever BS that shouldn't exist in the 21st century. Is there any proof to back this up, that someone could truly be Other, without conflating it with roles and other nonsense? 71.161.254.147 (talk) 08:19, 26 June 2015 (UTC)

You're non-binary if you self-identify as non-binary. As I've said on this talk page, I've met amab (well, I'm presuming they were amab, they're cis-passing) people who present as ordinary, gender-conforming men but privately have told me that they are non-binary, so despite all the cultural baggage surrounding gender roles and non-binary identity, I think they are two different things. As the article says, it is completely possible that non-binary people have an intersex condition of the brain. I wish I could offer you more insight, but I'm cisgender, so...(shrug). By the way, its possible to be transsexual without dysphoria. Shit's complicated. Asarelah (talk) 00:42, 20 August 2015 (UTC)
Non-binary person here who can perhaps clear some of it up for you? Maybe? You're using trans and non-binary as if they are completely different, mutually exclusive, things, and they aren't. Plenty of non-binary folks, myself included, identify as trans, it's just that in general trans is shorthand for "transgender person with a binary gender". As for the meat of your comment, social roles can F off (can I swear here?), but for those of us with dysphoria, they make little difference outside social expectations (there's much more to gender presentation and how society reads you, but that's not really relevant currently). How long my hair is, what I wear, which toys I played with, whether I cook or repair things or whatever gender roles are currently, is moot to having various secondary sex characteristics that just plain do not feel like part of me, while not feeling like the opposite gender is something I want to transition to. Discovering that I didn't actually have to "pick one", as it were, was quite relieving really -- no more "I want X surgery, but not to transition to [opposite gender]", just "ok, I'm non-binary, and that's fine". Lol, I kinda wish it was gender roles, a haircut and new clothing is hella cheaper than surgery! Argenti Aertheri (talk) 00:09, 26 September 2015 (UTC)
If you have no problem with your primary sex characteristics, especially your external genitals, why surgery? It doesn't really do anything about secondary sex characteristics, which are what you feel dysphoria about. (I assume you mean genital reconstruction surgery here.) If you are AMAB and have dysphoria about your facial hair, laser it (fair, it's expensive too, but less so than GRS, and more spaced out). If you are dysphoric about your voice, train it. If you can handle effects like loss or reduction of fertility (AMABs can bank sperm, and AFABs eggs beforehand, though pregnancy for trans men is still often possible as long as they retain the "equipment"), consider trying hormones. They're comparably cheap and effective at modifying a lot of things about your body over a period of a few years (so it won't be too radical, because you and other people can get used to the changes gradually), and can have beneficial mental effects too. Though there are secondary sex characteristics that hormones can't do much about, like breasts in AFABs and various effects of long exposure to testosterone in AMABs, especially with regard to skeletal structure, or hair, admittedly (specialised surgeries can help, but are expensive too). There are all kinds of options to consider – even binary trans people pick and choose according to their individual needs, and non-binary people who physically transition in some way tend to need even fewer measures. (Even for GRS, there are more options now beside traditional, full vaginoplasty or phalloplasty.) It's always a trade-off, but for those who find themselves desiring some degree of modification of their bodies, it can be extremely beneficial. It's admittedly still radical even without GRS (and in fact, changes to secondary sex characteristics are often even more radical because they tend to be more obvious in daily life), and there are numerous risks involved, especially social, but if you're already strongly gender-nonconforming, you might actually blend in better afterwards. I'm just saying that "full transition with GRS" and "no physical transition at all" aren't the only options. Especially if you're still young, it's better to start earlier than later, so I'd look into hormones and lose no time trying them (preferrably under medical supervision with informed consent, not DIY). Low-dosage hormones are an option to test the water; even with higher dosages, the effects happen slowly enough that you can still stop the hormones after a couple of weeks or months and have no irreversible changes. They're not addictive or anything, it's just when you like the effects, you'll want to continue. And you can stop anytime if you've had enough (this can happen especially for transmasculine people who may prefer having a deep voice and a beard but don't want to stay on testosterone indefinitely). --91.7.4.44 (talk) 17:23, 16 November 2017 (UTC)

Biological sex is not gender identity[edit]

You need big, blinking boldface banners at the top of the page and talk page that say that, probably. Might help.--Mr. Democritus (talk) 02:19, 26 September 2015 (UTC)

Why are my edits being undone?[edit]

I'm trying to improve the tone of the article and decouple its over-reliance on transgenderism, as well as the last section on special snowflakes and attention whores, which is irrelevant to the scope of the article. Can the users who keep undoing my edits please explain?

I was the first to undo your edit, and I'm gonna be completely honest, it was reactionary. I saw missing bytes and "Snowflake and attention whores", I figured it was vandalism, but after looking at it I un-undid it. I agree it doesn't fit with the page and it'd be much better suited to the talk page. - Shouniaisha (talk) 03:36, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
Thank you, I'm honestly trying to improve the article. As nobody knows the actual state of non-binary and whether its actually justifiable or a manifestation of something untreated, I think its important to maintain neutrality on the subject, to present both sides and to decouple it from the trans umbrella, as its really an unrelated issue, and globbing them together is less than ideal. - Elder Reaper (talk) 03:41, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
Rationalwiki has no incentive to be neutral. --"Paravant" Talk & Contribs 03:45, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
So, we should be all out SJW then? Really? That last bit just makes the rest of the article look worse. It should be on the talk page. Not the article. We should be more neutral with this issue based on the fact there is no scientific backing. I mean isn't that the point of the wiki? To get rid of crank and pseudoscience?-Elder Reaper (talk) 03:49, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
"Complains about neutrality being lacked in the article, makes a very non-neutral statement about articles content" isn't how you will ever get anybody to listen to you, for future reference.--"Paravant" Talk & Contribs 03:58, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
Okay, I get where you're coming from. I'll find some other way that is 'acceptable' to deal with that last section. I'm not a right-winger however, don't take my use of the SJW tag that seriously. I'm more referring to how other people will perceive the professionality of the article. - Elder Reaper (talk) 04:01, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
I do agree with Elder Reaper here. The section on attention whore and special snowflakes is poorly written; more like a rant than something worthy of an article. Gooniepunk (talk) 04:13, 24 November 2015 (UTC)
I've added an edit that makes the part more constructive and less rant-like. Hopefully this is more acceptable. - Elder Reaper (talk) 04:39, 24 November 2015 (UTC)

Straight/Heterosexual Non-binaries[edit]

I'm straight/heterosexual, and perhaps non-binary. Straight/heterosexual, meaning, I don't want a partner with the same "sex parts" as I have. I don't have an attraction to other non-binaries, either. I like cis-males. I've been told this makes me transphobic, though you can't choose who you're attracted to, and I really don't have a problem with trans folks. I'm just not attracted to trans folks or NBs. I acknowledge their gender, and I'm just not attracted to them, in the same way as someone can be attracted to men but that doesn't have to mean ALL types of men. That's how my attraction is. And also, my partner is heterosexual as well, because my gender is different from his own as well as our "sex parts" being different from each other.

Does being straight invalidate the whole non-binary thing? Am I not NB because I'm heterosexual -- attracted to cishets? I just hate the association with LGBT, considering that I'm NOT LGBT. And I hate how not following "femininity" has associations with lesbianism. Anyone should be able to dress and express themselves any way they like, and have any interests they enjoy, mannerisms, and so on and so forth, and this doesn't necessarily have to have ANYTHING to do with one's sexuality, and even gender. You know, you can be straight and cis and not follow "femininity." You can be straight and cis and look completely "butch" if you want.

All of this LGBT stuff feels oppressive to me, in a way. I just want to be myself without having to think about gender at all. While I can see how all of this stuff about gender and sexuality is liberating to many, and I don't want to take anything away from those folks, I feel as though this has great potential to be harmful to cis people, heterosexual people, and non-binary straight people who just want to be themselves without worrying about gender. Also, I'm Autistic and I don't follow gender and gender roles for that reason as well. I HATE it and I'd rather kill myself than follow those stereotypes, though that doesn't make me any less straight. I just want to be gender-neutral and focus on becoming a scientist.

The idea that "gender roles" are innate is extremely harmful and oppressive. Women can do and be ANYTHING, and that doesn't make them non-binary, and that doesn't make them a lesbian. Straight, cis women can do and be ANYTHING. Straight non-binaries can exist, as well. Not all non-binaries have to be in same sex and same gender relationships, or be bisexual or pansexual or asexual, do they? Why can't they be straight/heterosexual? And there's no such thing as "gender expression," necessarily, is there? Can't a straight, cis guy enjoy dressing any way he wants, whether in a pink tutu or suit and tie? Maybe he just LIKES it. Can't you see how these labels can be harmful? I also see how they can be helpful, as well. This stuff really needs to be sorted out though, so folks can just be themselves and NO ONE is oppressed, including cishets who express themselves in different ways, and non-binary straight people/heterosexuals. Bumpy Toad (talk) 21:09, 2 March 2016 (UTC)

The only person who can determine whether or not you are non-binary is YOU. Nobody else. Wearing women's clothing doesn't make a someone who identifies as male a non-binary. That merely makes him non-gender conforming. Furthermore, you don't need to be non-straight to be non-binary. I know a person who lives his life as a gender-conforming cishet man who privately identifies as non-binary but doesn't feel any need to not present as masculine. If you like to wear women's clothing and do other things that considered non-gender conforming that doesn't make you any less of a male if you identify as a male. You are whatever gender that you identify as. If you identify as male and want be feminine, you are still a male. Period. If you identify as non-binary, you have every right to do so, because gender identity and orientation are two different things. You can still be straight and be non-binary. Asarelah (talk) 16:15, 19 June 2016 (UTC)
As pointed out by Asarelah multiple times on this talk page, someone who comes across like a perfectly ordinary, gender-conforming cis man can still be a (probably closeted) non-binary person or even binary trans woman. Someone who comes across like a non-conforming cis man can also have a non-binary or even female identity (quite a lot of non-binary and even binary trans people are read as non-conforming cis men). The person could also be a trans man. Not all trans people transition, or have already transitioned completely, and there's no particular way to "look non-binary" or "look trans". When you say that you are only attracted to cis men and never to non-binary or trans people, how do you know that you haven't "accidentally" experienced attraction to (possibly multiple) non-binary or trans people who merely looked like cis men to you? Are you somehow able to magically, telepathically "see" other people's variant gender identities, even if they conceal them? That would be, um, a quite unique skill. More likely, however, you harbour prejudices about what non-binary and trans people look and behave like, which is indicative of transphobic bias. That's the fallacy when people say they would never be attracted to a trans person ... they assume they have some superhuman ability to pick out the transes, and that the toupée fallacy isn't a thing. Maybe examine your internalised transphobia ... and while you're at it, learn the difference between gender identity and gender norms. Yes, cis women and cis men can do anything, but so can trans women, trans men and non-binary folks. It doesn't change that they aren't cis. Being non-binary or trans isn't the same as "not conforming to gender norms". --91.7.4.44 (talk) 16:38, 16 November 2017 (UTC)
You're not transphobic for not being attracted to trans people anymore than you're sexist for not being attracted to women or I'm sexist for not being attracted to men. Christopher (talk) 16:48, 16 November 2017 (UTC)
Cis women and especially cis men are not exactly marginalised and vilified minorities, so the analogy makes no sense. Also, in reality, attraction has a tendency to be random and unexpected. People have preferences, but there are also at least occasional exceptions, including in gender, even if they are not admitted to. Humans are notoriously complicated after all, and sexuality is more fluid than people realise. --91.7.4.44 (talk) 17:47, 16 November 2017 (UTC)
You can still be bigoted against groups of people that aren't often discriminated against and women are still discriminated against. I'm sure there are exceptions but I was talking generally. Christopher (talk) 18:13, 16 November 2017 (UTC)
Cis women, as a group, however, are not considered inferior sex partners, weirdos, ugly, "unfuckable", pathetic, deceptive, predators, perverted, unsound of mind etc., however, the way trans people are, especially trans women and transfeminine people. There are similar prejudices against nonbinaries and other minority groups that just don't exist towards either cis women or cis men. (Also, we're probably mainly talking about the West here, where it's not considered acceptable to openly discriminate against women anymore, not Saudi Arabia or some African country.) So, a "preference" that just so happens to consist of the blanket exclusion of an actual minority (cis women aren't exactly a minority, which is why the phrasing "women and minorities" is commonly found) that society already hates or is suspicious about, or alternatively fetishises (this also happens with ethnic minorities, for example), is a hell of a lot less believable as a genuine, innocent, innate (not learned) personality trait independent of prejudice (especially given that it usually turns out that people who exclude a minority as sexual partners actually harbour strong prejudices against that minority) than a gender-based preference. I have yet to meet a cis man who claims to have absolutely no attraction to any trans woman ever and does not believe things like that (all or almost all) trans women are ugly or look like men (and are therefore easy to spot), have penises or visually unconvincing (or otherwise unsatisfactory) genitals, are predatory and aggressive, somehow unfeminine, mentally unstable, not really women, etc. (Also, significantly, in many cases it turns out that a particularly vigorously trans-exclusionary or transmisogynist person – not always a heterosexual man – secretly does lust after trans women after all, or has other issues.) While gay men can be misogynist, even intensely so, I know of no evidence that any gay man excludes women (including trans women, by the way) as partners because he hates women or is prejudiced against them. In fact, countless heterosexual men experience no cognitive dissonance between hating or looking down on women and choosing them as sexual partners (or at least lusting after them). --91.7.8.143 (talk) 05:46, 4 December 2017 (UTC)

Well, that's an interesting term.[edit]

I noticed the word "exorsexist/exorsexism" in the article towards the end, meaning the "erasure of non-binary genders". I like this word. It's a lot more professional-sounding than what I used to use: "the 'hurr durr only 2 jindurrz' crowd". TheMyon (talk) 09:22, 20 December 2016 (UTC)

Well there are only to biological sex though.Doublethink (talk) 19:41, 30 November 2018 (UTC)
How so? Of what species? What are your hard-line criteria? Do the individuals who meet your hardline criteria meet other reasonable hardline criteria? Why or why not? What predictions does your criteria provide about individuals? What scientific utility do those predictions provide? These aren't idle questions. None of them are ones you should skip answering. ikanreed 🐐Bleat at me 20:00, 30 November 2018 (UTC)
Chromosomes determine biological sex. There are two types of chromosomes X and Y Boys have X/Y and girls have X/X. This determines biological sex, https://www.who.int/genomics/gender/en/index1.html.Doublethink (talk) 20:36, 30 November 2018 (UTC)
There is very much a reason why I asked you to skip answering none of the questions. ikanreed 🐐Bleat at me 21:57, 30 November 2018 (UTC)
For humans, my hard line criteria for being a boy of a girl is having the correct chromosomes. Biological sex in science is determined though chromosomes. This allows us to differentiate between transitioned transgender people girls, and boys,.Doublethink (talk) 23:07, 30 November 2018 (UTC)
No really. Do individuals who meet your hardline criteria meet other "hardline" criteria? For example, with your criteria, people with swyer syndrome are born with a vagina but xy chromosomes. As do people with androgen insensitivity. Would you deem people who have been treated as girls their whole lives by have xy karyotyping "beneath the hood" trans? What scientific utility is "differentiating transgender people"? Like... these aren't idle hypothetical questions. These are questions about what you're trying to get at with having a "biological concept of sex". ikanreed 🐐Bleat at me 18:00, 1 December 2018 (UTC)
Not to mention the fact that Doublethink (living up to their name, apparently) completely fails at understanding gender, chromosomes, or the existence of various intersex people (the Klinefelter variants of XXY & XYY come to mind). Apologies for not using my (old, underused) username; new home, new computer, haven't sorted everything out yet.100.14.35.125 (talk) 19:34, 6 January 2019 (UTC)
Sigh, not another easily refuted "chromosomes determine sex" ignorant canard. I want to see how Doublethink responds. --It's-a me, LeftyGreenMario!(Mod) 19:47, 6 January 2019 (UTC)
Actually according to these people intersex isn't a gender and the INSA states that it is similar to a disorder. Also the World Health Orgnization states chromosomes determine gender. (Full disclosure, I am doublethink, I changed my account so I could have a better name) Commie Lib (talk) 20:46, 6 January 2019 (UTC)
WHO isn't supporting your claim. First, you're confusing between sex and gender. Second, the paragraph says the following:

Clearly, there are not only females who are XX and males who are XY, but rather, there is a range of chromosome complements, hormone balances, and phenotypic variations that determine sex.

You are presenting only part of the picture, actually read the sources you're trotting out. This also applies to your other links, which aren't exactly supporting your assertions. --It's-a me, LeftyGreenMario!(Mod) 22:03, 7 January 2019 (UTC)

The perfect introduction to non-binary gender/sex[edit]

I'm shocked that such a level-headed assessment even existed on YouTube! I don't mean to oversell it, but if you only watch one video on non-binary gender/sex in your life, make it this one. Reverend Black Percy (talk) 00:28, 21 March 2017 (UTC)

Question[edit]

Do these people believe that their BIOLOGICAL sex isn't male or female or that they just have a differing gender expression?Doublethink (talk) 19:42, 30 November 2018 (UTC)

It depends. ikanreed 🐐Bleat at me 20:01, 30 November 2018 (UTC)