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Incel is a portmanteau of "Involuntary celibacy". Nowadays, the term "Incel" typically refers to members of an online subculture and/or a collection of online forums for men who define themselves as being unable to find a willing sexual partner for an extended period of time.[1][2][3][4][5][6][7][8][9][10][11][12][13][14][15][16] To varying degrees, incel subculture is typically characterised as self-loathing, misogynistic, racist, selfish, cultish, narcissistic, ultra-conservative, sadistic, mildly evangelistic, sociopathic and resentful, and most (if not all) of its members believe that they are entitled to a woman's body, often endorsing violent behavior. Whether it's that they have these traits because nobody will sleep with them or that nobody will sleep with them because they have these traits varies from case to case.

The term incel gained more public attention with the banning of the r/incels subreddit, as well a series of multiple-homicides (often immediately followed by suicides) committed by men who had publicly proclaimed themselves as "celibate not-by-choice" in an online shitpost at some point prior to these killing sprees.[17][18][19]

Etymology and early history[edit]

A shortened version of term "involuntary celibacy" called "INVCEL" was coined in 1997 by a female college student named Alana from Toronto, Ontario. She created a website on a university domain as an academic project to discover the causes of involuntary celibacy.[20] Later, a listserv was created for the academic project so that others could discuss their inability to form sexual and/or romantic relationships.[21][22] The website was titled "Alana's Involuntary Celibacy Project".[23] The listserv was used by people of all genders to share posts regarding the topic. After the listserv was created, someone proposed changing the abbreviation to "Incel", a label that still sticks to this day. Around 2003, she began to grow increasingly disaffected by the rise of toxicity on the listserv, to the point that she eventually sold the community to someone else, who moved the community to a more conventional forum called "Incel Support". This fork later died due to a 2013 server crash.[24]

A year after Alana created her academic project and listserv in 1998, the first conventional online forum (using conventional forum software) for incels was created in Germany, named "Parsimonyforum 3708".[25]

Definition "controversy"[edit]

Academic sources, mainstream sources and the Oxford Dictionary describe incels as relating to the toxic online subculture of perpetually-outraged MRAs that is typically associated with hostile views towards women and sexually successful men. [26][27][28][29] Some incel apologists attempt to expand the definition to include all involuntary celibates, including those who do not feel entitled to sex and/or who are not even male.[note 1][30]

Online communities[edit]

To varying degrees, these communities tend to run rampant with misogyny, chauvinism, and feelings of entitlement to women's (or in rare cases men's) bodies, as well as not-so-subtle endorsements of violence. They have also been known to contain descriptions of dating anxiety, bad luck, descriptions of extreme introversion, physical handicaps, and mental disabilities or disorders.[31]

Some online incel communities use a vast vocabulary of other terms to describe incels, such as "truecel", someone who has never had any form of physical intimacy, "mentalcel", someone whose involuntary celibacy is caused by a mental health issue, or "fakecel", someone who pretends to be incel.[32] Female incels sometimes call themselves femcels.[33] Homosexuals and transgender incels sometimes call themselves gaycels and transcels respectively.[34]

Proclaimed beliefs that are common in these communities include being cursed, nihilism,[35] fatalism, and defeatism for unattractive people.[36] Those who post on these anonymous boards tend to claim that modern society is gynocentric,[37] where women have the power to choose or reject sexual partners, and that women using this power are predisposed to selecting men based on their perceived genetic fitness.[38] These communities generally embrace the blackpill ideology.

r9k[edit] is considered the birth of the culture of blackpill boards, along with terms such as "Chad", "Stacy", etc. originated from r9k.[39] It was not created as an incel board but rather as a general place for original content on 4chan with an automated bot that rejects unoriginal content.[40] It turns out that when you ask a bunch of lonely weeaboos to post original content, they mostly post about wanting to have a girlfriend.

To this day, there is a lot of astroturfing on r9k. r9k users sometimes call themselves "robots". The term is used either as a label of autism or a near-synonym for hikikomori (Never mind how autistic people might feel about being compared to 4chan users).

r/incels[edit] is a banned subreddit that previously allowed anonymous people to post as involuntarily celibate men. It was not the first active incel subreddit, which appears to be r/Truecels. The initial activity of r/Incels seemed to be an evasion of the quarantine of r/Truecels. On the r/Incels subreddit, men blamed women for their involuntary celibacy, sometimes anonymously advocated rape and violence, were generally misogynistic and often racist.[41] Anonymous posters in the subreddit used 4chan lingo, described women as "femoids" or "Stacys," and described men who were able to have sex with these women as "Chads".[42]

On October 25, 2017, Reddit announced a new policy that banned "content that encourages, glorifies, incites, or calls for violence or physical harm against an individual or group of people."[41] On November 7, 2017, the /r/incels subreddit was banned for violating this policy. At the time of the ban, the community had around 40,000 members.[43] It was banned after an r/incels poster impersonated a woman on a different subreddit and asked how police would identify the perpetrator of a rape.[edit], formerly, and before that,, was also created as a refuge for r/incels posters. It is infamous for inability to retain domains, in-fighting, advocation of violence, advocation of rape, and violent misogyny. The community is 4 years old and still online, having moved from a .me to Icelandic domain (.is) due to the (.me) registry Afilias claiming that the forum mods did not make a strong enough attempt to delete posts and users that engage in hate speech and/or the promotion of violence. [44] The forum is alt-right and bans all women and LGBTQ people immediately.


Those r/incels users who did not move to external sites moved to one of the few Reddit sanctioned incel boards left, called "r/Braincels". Braincels was quarantined from showing up on Reddit's homepage in late 2018 for misogyny and then banned entirely in late 2019 for violating new Reddit rules on harassment and bullying.[45][edit] (previously evolved from a Facebook group and started as a way to recapture the gender-inclusive spirit of the original incel community, according to Gaystarnews, the largest LGBTQ site.[46] The forum is known for "rate me" type posts[47] and, "looksmaxxing" tips. In 2019, the BBC made a documentary called, "Inside the secret world of incels", in which Yourenotalone was portrayed as non-violent and gender-inclusive.[48] This is one of the relatively more tolerant (and less popular) communities (which is not to say a lot - even women are allowed on these boards!).

Love not Anger[edit]

The original incel community (Alana's group and IncelSupport) tried to start up again around 2019 through a mailing list. It was centered around a gender-inclusive site called "LovenotAnger" at, ""[49] The project was shut down in early 2020 due to Alana finding a job unrelated to inceldom that she found more personally fulfilling than previous activities.[50] They were looking to move away from the word incel. This is one of the relatively more tolerant (and less popular) communities

The Incel Wikis[edit] and are both English language wikis devoted to incel topics. Both sites originated from, which started in 2018 to counteract what they perceived as sensationalism, inaccuracy, and non-neutral writing on the Wikipedia incel article after the Minassian Van Attack.[51]

Notable suicides[edit]

Wilkes McDermid[edit]

In 2015, popular London food critic Wilkes McDermid jumped off the City restaurant Coq d’Argent’s roof-terrace to his death. In his final blog post hours before his death, he wrote, “I have concluded that in the realm of dating and relationships the primary characteristics required for men are as follows: “Height: above 5ft 10ins; race - a huge bias towards caucasian and black; and wealth or other manifestation of power. From my observations and research it appears that you need two of the three criteria for success ... What this ... means [is] that it’s ‘game over’ for me.”. A friend of his told the Evening Standard that he had lots of friends but never had a girlfriend by age 39, the time of his death. [52][53][54]

Notable homicides[edit]

Several men have gained media attention through suicides and/or homicides and leaving notes describing involuntary celibacy. Such individuals include: George Sodini, Christopher Harper-Mercer, Elliot Rodger, Wilkes McDermid, and allegedly, Alek Minassian.

George Sodini[edit]

The perpetrator of the 2009 Collier Township shooting and suicide, George Sodini, killed multiple women before shooting himself at a gym outside Pittsburgh. He had an online blog detailing his perpetual rejection by women and inability to figure out why despite attempts to improve himself. In a July, 2009 blog post he wrote, "Last time I slept all night with a girlfriend it was 1982. Proof I am a total malfunction. Girls and women don't even give me a second look anywhere. There is something blantantly wrong with me that no goddam person will tell me what it is." His last post before the shooting discussed his net worth of over $250,000, the estranged mother of his child, that people didn't know the full extent of his frustration, and that women would only ever call him a "nice guy".[55] He had also sought dating help to no avail before the shooting.[56]

Elliot Rodger[edit]

The 2014 Isla Vista spree killing and suicide drew considerable attention to involuntary celibacy. The perpetrator, Elliot Rodger, self-identified as an incel and the "supreme gentleman", left behind a 137-page manifesto and YouTube videos discussing how he wanted to torture sexually active men and women who he thought wronged him.[57] He had been an active member of an anti-pick-up-artist community called PUAHate (short for "pickup artist hate") and referenced it several times in his manifesto.[58][59][19]

Alek Minassian[edit]

Another major incident of killings involving a self-described involuntary celibate concerns Alek Minassian, and his April 2018 Toronto van attackWikipedia and attempted suicide. The perpetrator of the April 2018 Toronto van attack posted on Facebook shortly before the attack, "The Incel Rebellion has already begun! ... All hail the Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger!" After the attack, he requested a policeman shoot him in the head, which the officer declined to do.[60] On March 3rd 2021, Minassian was convicted for this incident, guilty of 10 counts of first degree murder and 16 counts of attempted murder. [61]

Faisal Hussain[edit]

Faisal Hussain was a Canadian born man of Pakistani background. He was the perpetrator of the Danforth shootingWikipedia, which happened on July 22, 2018, in Greektown, Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Before killing himself, Hussain also killed two people and wounded 13 others.[62] Due to his death, it took a while to figure out a motive. Eventually, reports came out that Hussain's motives were arguably inspired by Elliot Rodger (a copy of the manifesto was found on electronic devices owned by Hussain) as well as Minassian's van attack. It was also reported that one trigger of the attack was his family telling him to "find a wife".[63][64]

Tobias Rathjen[edit]

On February 19 2020, a gunman killed nine people in two racially motivated shootings at hookah loungesWikipedia in the German town of HanauWikipedia. The suspect then returned home, killed his mother, and then killed himself. [65] The gunman was identified as Tobias Rathjen, aged 43. Before the mass murder, Rathjen uploaded a rambling manifesto (that made one radicalization expert, Peter R. NeumannWikipedia, believe that the shooter suffered from some serious mental issues) that contained multiple rants against minorities, including calls for wiping half the world's population out. [66][67] In the manifesto, the man wrote that he was an incel, stating that he had not had a relationship with a woman in 18 years due to a fear of the state surveilling him. [68] The manifesto also contained a grab-bag of other far-right conspiracy theories, such as some ideals borrowed from QAnon. [66]

Other incidents[edit]

Date Location Country Description
October 1, 2015 Roseburg, Oregon United States 26-year-old Chris Harper-Mercer shot and killed 9 people and injured 8 others at the Umpqua Community College campus before killing himself. He left a manifesto at the scene outlining his interest in other spree killings, anger at not having a girlfriend, and animosity towards the world. Before the attack, when someone on an online message board had speculated he was "saving himself for someone special," Harper-Mercer had replied, "Involuntarily so."[69][18][70]
November 2, 2018 Hot Yoga Tallahassee studio, Tallahassee Florida United States 40 year old Scott Paul Beierle walked into a yoga studio in Tallahassee, Florida just before a class began, and shot six people, killing 21-year-old Florida State University student Maura Binkley, and faculty member Dr. Nancy Van Vessem, 61, before turning the gun on himself. Beierle also applauded Elliot Rodger on social media and shared many misogynist beliefs online, such as the belief that "American whores" should be crucified. He previously had been arrested for grabbing women's buttocks without consent, and had been terminated from various jobs and booted from the Army due to his interactions with the opposite sex. [71][72]
February 24, 2020 Crown Spa, Toronto, Ontario Canada A 17 year old male was arrested and charged with first-degree murder and attempted murder after entering a massage parler and stabbing multiple people. The crime was later upgraded to a terrorism charge on May 2020 due to evidence that the crime was inspired by incel ideology. This is the first time, globally, that incel ideology has been acknowledged that it could drive extremist, ideology fueled violence worthy of the "terrorism" label. University of Toronto law professor Kent Roach welcomed this development, saying that the application of the terrorism label to ideologies such as far-right extremism and the incel movement was "long overdue".[73][74][75] Others, such as Director of U Ottawa Security program and ex CSE analyst Phil Gurski have argued their is not enough proof of political motive to classify existing violence charges as terrorism, including the Crown Spa attack.[76][77] A major foreign policy magazine, 'Foreign Policy', mocked the associated trial as a 'show trial', because of a lack of a clear political goal needed for a rational terrorism charge.[78] Editor and General Manager of 'The Conversation' magazine, argues 'We do not need and should not want an anti-terrorism response to misogyny'. They argue that expanding 'terrorism' to “lone actor”, “homegrown”, and/or "ideological terrorism" would lead to further targeting of environmental activists, Indigenous protestors, or any ideology the government does not like.[79]
May 21, 2020 Westgate Entertainment District, Glendale, Arizona United States Three people were injured when 20 year old Armando Hernandez Jr. opened fire within the Westgate District, a popular shopping and restaurant strip just outside of Phoenix, Arizona. The perpetrator of the crime live-streamed the incident on Snapchat and claimed to be targeting couples. Prosecutors said that Hernandez described himself to authorities as an incel and claimed he wanted to shoot at least 10 people in order to "gain some respect". Fortunately, Hernandez's gun jammed during the incident, preventing him from hurting more people. [80][81]
June 3, 2020 Virginia United States 23 year old Cole Carini arrived at a hospital with a mutilated hand. At first claiming this injury was due to a lawnmower, the FBI later discovered explosives and other evidence that Carini was preparing an improvised explosive device in his home when the device exploded. In his writing, Carini expressed a desire to use the device against "hot cheerleaders," potentially inspired by Elliot Rodger based on notes found on his property. [82][83]

See also[edit]


  1. See [[1]] older version of this very article that was written by a drive-by incel POV-pusher.


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