Men Going Their Own Way
| Voice of the voiceful|
|Lest women catch up|
|Bros before hoes|
“”They've had enough, and they're taking their balls and going home.
The Men Going Their Own Way movement (MGTOW, pronounced "mig-tau"; adherents are MGTOWers or miggies) is an offshoot of the men's rights movement advocating male separatism. Adherents buy into the rhetoric of men's rights advocates, but instead of trying to address (alleged) issues, they have vowed either to stay away from women altogether or to stop dating/marrying women and having children. In other words, it's a hilarious analog to the lesbian separatist movement, but without homosexuality — the LGBT rights movement is an
feminist, Cultural Marxist, obstacle to male self-ownership, apparently. MGTOWers often claim to have been subjected to mistreatment by women, but are thereafter unable to see a distinction between those who hurt them and women in general. It's unclear if the movement has grown beyond self-isolating men complaining about their lot in life in the new world and criticizing the other gender. Examples of MGTOW groups which have actually "gone their own way" and discuss and support one another in MGTOW life beyond gender comparisons and the unfair world, are difficult if not impossible to find.
“”I do not avoid women, Mandrake. But I do deny them my essence.
|—General Ripper, Dr. Strangelove|
The "going their own way" part is often framed not just as manly self-preservation but as a "strike" that is supposed to punish women. In the worldview of all too many MGTOWers, women are succubus-like creatures who seduce men in order to exploit them, but are unable to live without men's support. (It's worth mentioning the strong whiff of overt misogyny wafting around the movement.) There are amusing parallels here with the notion of "going Galt" that is popular among libertarians who overestimate their importance to society. It's perhaps telling that despite professing to 'go their own way' they seem utterly obsessed with women in their internet forums.
MRA memes commonly pop up in MGTOW narratives including: good-guy-loser/successful-bad-boy-player, men as oppressed gender, friendzone, incel, misandry, and "aaarrrrggghhh SJWs are destroying the Y-chromosome"! The best way for man-hermits to avoid and be done with the devious cunning shenanigans of the females, is to never stop bitching about them while reinforcing one another's bias, preferably in a damp and dank basement man-cave.
Occasionally, MGTOWers who support marriage will advocate that Western men try marrying Asian women instead, as they are apparently more demure and submissive. Asian-American feminists and other decent human beings are wholly disgusted by this idea, as are the MGTOWers who also frequent Stormfront; one exeption to this rule may be Andrew Anglin, the founder of the unabashedly white supremacist/neo-Nazi/alt-right webshite The Daily Stormer who seems to have a thing for "jailbait" Filipina and
honorary Aryans Japanese girls.
Locking antlers with the MRA Community
While they have a number of things in common, notably including an obsession with references to the 90's movie The Matrix, the MRA and MGTOW communities have been known to butt heads. Men's Rights Advocates take issue especially with MGTOWs who choose to keep their distance from them with regards to marriage and making children.
Stefan Molyneux, one of the leading figures of the MRA movement, has been very vocal in opposing the MGTOW community. He's taken issue especially with their refusal to marry and have children. Regarding the latter, he's been especially noteworthy in remarking that refusing to give birth to children is selfish despite himself being a stalwart advocate of purely selfish behavior.
Some MGTOW advocate cutting off all ties with the outside world and essentially living a life of solitude; this is known as going ghost. Others have been known to advocate literally going ghost; i.e., suicide. This shouldn't be confused with dating term "ghosting", which is cutting off all contact with a (soon-to-be-former) significant other rather than a formal break-up.
- See the Wikipedia article on Men Going Their Own Way.
- Stories of couples where men go their own way
- MGTOW.com forums
- MGTOW HQ, another forum site
- A collection of pre-mocked MGTOW on We Hunted The Mammoth
- Goldwag, Arthur (Spring 2012). "Leader's Suicide Brings Attention to Men's Rights Movement". Intelligence Report (Southern Poverty Law Center) (145). https://www.splcenter.org/fighting-hate/intelligence-report/2012/leader%E2%80%99s-suicide-brings-attention-men%E2%80%99s-rights-movement. Retrieved April 6, 2015.
- Nicholson, Jeremy (April 3, 2012). "Why Are Men Frustrated With Dating?". Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201204/why-are-men-frustrated-dating.
- Gander, Kashmira (September 27, 2016). "Inside the world of men who've sworn never to sleep with women again". The Independent. "In this quest, obstacles include feminists; white knights ...; social justice warriors; those who are pro-LGBT rights and support safe spaces, amongst other things."
- Examples include these videos from pro-MGTOW YouTube channels. See also: the "nice guy" trope.
- "Yellow Rage - I'm a Woman Not a Flava" uploaded by TheRealYellowRage on October 12, 2008
- "Andrew Anglin does the Philippines-Jailbait Style", via LiveLeak: the original YouTube upload has been taken down.
- Anglin, Andrew (April 5, 2015). "Asian Boy Defends Whites Against Genocide". The Daily Stormer. Archived from the original on July 8, 2015.
- "Marriage vs. MGTOW | YouTube Comments - Rebutted!" uploaded by Stefan Molyneux on April 6, 2015
- Reddit MGTOWs celebrate suicide as a badass way to stick it to women